Dear Friend,
First of all, you’re an amazing person. Your bubbly laugh, inspiring interests and outgoing personality attracts me to you. There is a reason that from the moment I met you I thought to myself that I wanted to be friends and get to know you. I have the best time when we hang out. We truly connect through our aspirations and enjoyment of similarities. When we are together it seems like we could talk forever like little girls at a sleepover. For a time we called each other best friends, posted pictures up on social media together all the time and felt like we saw each other 24/7. But that seems to be in the past now.
Remember the times you never showed up to the lunches we planned? I would sit at the table for half an hour before I left. Remember when you wouldn’t text me back because you said you didn’t find it necessary? Nice to know I am not a priority. Remember when you said we would have a movie night for Halloween but you went out drinking with your friends instead? Luckily I was able to find other girls willing to watch movies after hours of binge watching “Friends” on Netflix waiting for you to call me.
We go in streaks of seeing each other. At first I wondered why you would come in and out of my life regardless of how frequent I asked to meet up. It then became apparent that you have me as a friend when it is most convenient for you. You will make the time to see me unless there is a better option available. When it is a good time for you, you make an effort to catch up with me and it feels like we’re best friends again. Without notice, you are absent from my life due to your own lack of interest. Everything about me has remained the same and I want to make memories with you still. It is hard for me to be friends with someone who I can’t always rely on and who isn’t always there.
Please know that you have made an impact on my life through being close friends with me and helping me learn how to cope with an absent friend. I want you to know that I choose to put up with our friendship; I do not have to deal with your infrequency in interest of our friendship. Sooner than later I will no longer want to wait around for you. Eventually your disinterest will become my disinterest. I would never wish to have our friendship broken but it is slowly fading away whether you realize it or not. My only hope is that you can remember all of our memories as best friends and know that I love when we are friends.
Sincerely,
Your Not Fickle Friend
