You're still young, there's no need to have your entire life mapped out at fourteen.

I know you think your life is going to stay on schedule and not a single thing is going to get you off track from what you really want in life. But the thing is, you should already know by now that life throws obstacles at you. Not only that but to be brutally honest with you, you really don't know what you want in life. Don't get me wrong, it is great to have goals and dreams because that's what life is all about. But just because your goals or dreams change doesn't mean it is the end of the world. Heck it may even be the best thing that could happen to you, you just don't know it yet.

As a teenage girl, I know you're just worried about who you're dating and you're ALL about that relationship. But you need to focus on other aspects of life, like your friends, sports and classes. Take it all in. Enjoy being around your teachers and classmates because one day it'll all be gone. And that boy you're dating will be too. Focus on eating better, sleeping better and studying better. Love yourself too because that's what matters most. You don't need some guy to love you in order to be happy.

I know you think you're going to go to college for four years. You think you'll meet the love of your life when you're twenty, be engaged by twenty-three and be married by twenty-five. You also think you want a house full of kids before you're thirty. You dream of getting away for college then coming back to your little hometown. And there's nothing wrong with that but you need to remember that you haven't seen the world yet. You've been sheltered to one tiny area your entire life and you need to explore. You need to get out there on your own and learn how to fly. You've always leaned on someone else to pull you through because they knew your entire life story. That's all fine and dandy but you need to be stronger than that. You need to realize how beautiful life really is when you learn how to really be strong and truly love yourself.

You know what you never thought about? You never thought of living anywhere but your hometown. You never dreamed bigger. But you will once you're out. You need to travel while your young. Experience new things. Meet new people. Be a little reckless and spend too much money. Because we all know you're too busy trying to be perfect to do anything crazy. I wish you would worry less about being a "people pleaser" and learn to put yourself first from time to time. Don't be afraid to do something that's different from the norm. Where you're from shapes you and molds you into the type of person you are but your hometown does not define you. Be who you are, be true to yourself and put your own happiness before anything else.

I'm not telling you to put other people's feelings aside or hurt them but don't be scared to put you and your happiness first. I know the last thing you want to do is hurt someone but sometimes it's for the best.

I guess what I'm trying to say is to keep an open mind because whether you like it or not you're plans are going to change. You're not going to graduate college in four years. You're sure as heck not going to be married by twenty-five. Honestly, I'm not even sure if you're going to want to get married and have kids. And that is perfectly okay because for once in your life you're going to be able to finally tell yourself you are truly happy.

I may be clueless about my future, where I am going and what I want in life but I can finally say that I am truly happy.