Most people want to believe that college is a promise for friendship, for community, for social utopia. I mean, you're surrounded by people at almost all times. There's so many opportunities for friendship and fun, right?

Then how come it can be so hard to get someone to even text you back?

Y'know, I see my peers on their phones all the time. I see them texting while in class, while driving, and even while someone else is blatantly talking to them in real life. So it very much so confuses me as to why I cannot even receive a simple "I'm busy." It is easier to be rejected or excused of conversation than be left with no response at all. If you're on the side that thinks this a petty issue, then I shouldn't expect a response from you, right?

This problem extends to other forms of communication, too. It is one thing for someone to put their phone down and not use their phone for an extended amount of time (for most this is merely sleeping), but it is another thing to not text someone back and then to post on social media. Is your Internet persona really that much more important than your friend texting you? Would you really rather share that thought you posted with millions of anonymous strangers versus your friend who you actually know?

This isn't a one time thing. This is something that builds up over time. These habits soon become character traits, and I do not know how to approach my own "friends." Am I supposed to wait for you to text me first? Why does this have to feel like a middle school round of AIM chat with your crush?

I understand that college students are busy people, but I never really feel like someone's priority. Ever. I'm at this point where I have a boyfriend, a dog, but no best friend. I'm sure this wouldn't feel as harsh if some of my friends would reach out to me more, to spend even half an hour with me, to just notice how badly I just want to be their friend.

This isn't a desperate plea. This, if anything, is a complaint.

So what gives? If this is going to be a one-sided friendship, I feel like I deserve to know. If this friendship is going to require me having to constantly try to make plans only for you to cancel or forget, then I'd rather you be someone I randomly run into on campus or at parties, and talk to for five minutes then walk away.

I don't care if this sounds like an overreaction. I am a junior in college right now, and I do not have time for empty friendships. About 99 percent of the time all I need from you is a genuine, "Hey, how are you?"