It is that time of year again. The time where everything is pretty, magical, and there seems to be miracles in the air. It is a time full of joy and happiness; you are surrounded by family and friends and everything is supposed to be cheery. But you can’t help but wonder why you feel alone surrounded by all these people that love you. You feel jealous of those who have someone to kiss under the mistletoe and someone to kiss to ring in the New Year. I know this time of year is hard for you but darling, do not go back to someone who is toxic and do not give someone false hope just to find a filler for this time of year.

There is a reason why it did not work out in the first place. I know it seems easy to lean on an ex or to lean on someone who finds you attractive but when you do that, you are hurting yourself and potentially someone else. You are better than that. Do not use someone else’s emotions to gain happiness for yourself if you do not have intentions to give the other person the same thing back. It is not fair to them. Imagine the pain you would be in if someone did that to you. It is unbelievably selfish and conceited to think that your emotions are the only emotions that matter. This time of year makes people more vulnerable, to play with their emotions is a crime against humanity.

Do not go back to the toxic person that hurt you. It might seem like an easy thing to do, given that you already know the person and you do not have to learn everything else about them. This is a bad idea. Remember why it did not workout. I guarantee that if you go back to this person during this time of year, they will more than likely fill a temporary fix. You deserve better than the bare minimum.

This time of year can be lonely if you are worried about finding that special someone to spend the holidays with. Eventually, there will be that person that comes along and fixes your heart and fulfills that need. But for now, you need to be patient. Do not go back to the person that is toxic and do not hurt someone because you are lonely. Be patient, the perfect match will find you before you know it and you can spend the rest of your holidays with them.