An Open Letter To My Selfless Best Friend

An Open Letter To My Selfless Best Friend

You deserve to be celebrated.

I am completely aware that I am not the first person to write a heartfelt letter expressing their appreciation for their best friend. However, aside from that appreciation, I want to highlight the insanely beautiful person that she is. I want this to be a testimony of her selflessness, and the beauty that radiates from her altruistic ways. I want others to be touched and inspired by the person she is. It would be a tragedy for her kindness to go without recognition. Not only does she deserve to feel special and appreciated, but to keep her selflessness as an untold story would be a disservice those who don't have the privilege of knowing her on a personal level. We can all learn from the kind of friend she is.

She always puts everyone's needs ahead of own and never shows frustration. Her love for her friends is endless and unconditional. It is a special, rare, and strong kind of love. The way she loves completely demonstrates the extraordinary person she is. I think we all forget that concept. By that, I mean that we forget that how we love our friends is a reflection of who we really are. It embodies our strength, our capacity for empathy and compassion. It reflects our morals. Remember that. How you love is a direct representation of all that you are as a person.

Self·less Adjective; Concerned more with the needs and wishes of others than with one's own; unselfish.

Merriam-Webster's definition of the word selfless doesn't even begin to portray her character. The definition itself is a superficial description of the standard of friendship we are all supposed to live by. We were all (hopefully) brought up to have compassion and empathy for others. However, somewhere along the way, society has lost sight of this concept. Instead, we have become self-centered. We become consumed with the happenings of our own busy lives. In the process, we forget to regard others. Not only does she take others into consideration every day, but she has the strength and compassion to put their needs and problems ahead of her own. That is extraordinary.

Most of us can't even find it within ourselves to send a simple message to our friends saying we hope they have a good day. A lot of us even forget to text our friends back. She is different. She holds herself to the utmost standard and doesn't settle for being a mediocre friend. She makes the time, she is there for her loved ones no matter what. She never judges, and she loves unconditionally. She fits every definition of selflessness, and surpasses it on a deeper level. She is everything a best friend should be and more.

She always listens. She listens for countless minutes as I ramble on about my issues and obstacles in life. She is such a good listener and a reliable confidant, that I sometimes forget to hear her out. She is such a constant in my life that I often forget to be the friend that she is to me in return to her. I think we all take our best friends for granted. It wasn't until the other night that I looked at her as I was rambling on incessantly, and saw the look on her face. It wasn't annoyance, frustration, or boredom. Despite the fact that I had been talking her ear off, she was looking back at me completely engaged in the conversation, with nothing but the most honest look of sincerity in her eyes. I realized then how quietly compassionate she is. That was all it took. She cares so deeply and doesn't expect anything in return. It was in that moment that she inspired me to be a better person, and a better friend. That is the ultimate friend- one that pushes you to be better and inspires you in every way.

Be better. Care more. Make more time for your loved ones. Don't do it for recognition. Put your own issues on the back burner and put them first. Don't settle for being a mediocre friend, be an extraordinary friend.

I challenge you to be a quietly compassionate human being that inspires others to be better people. Be humble in all your ways and expect nothing in return. That is what my best friend has done for me, and I am forever changed.

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To That One Friend Who Deserves The World

Since I can't give you the world, I hope giving you this article is enough.

My wonderful friend,

You deserve love.

You deserve to marry your best friend.

You deserve appreciation.

You deserve that no matter who comes in and out of your life, every selfless thing you do for someone is acknowledged.

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You deserve kindness.

You deserve to have the nicest people in the world surround you all of the time.

You deserve support.

You deserve to have someone there for you at the beginning of every good day and at the end of every bad one, to have someone who wants to fix all of your problems.

You deserve hope.

You deserve to always be optimistic.

You deserve laughter.

You deserve to never stop smiling and actually mean it every time you do.

You deserve forgiveness.

You deserve to be able to be given second chances because without a doubt you are worth it.

You deserve friendship.

You deserve to have a friend who can be just as good of a friend as you are.

You deserve honesty.

You deserve to always be told the truth.

You deserve motivation.

You deserve to never want to give up and always push yourself.

You deserve success.

You deserve to have everything you have worked so hard for.

You deserve faith.

You deserve to always know it will get better.

You deserve loyalty.

You deserve to have that one person who will never leave and always be there for you.

You deserve happiness.

You deserve to be genuinely content with your life.

You deserve the world.

If I could give it to you, I would.

Yes, life gets tough sometimes. The unthinkable happens and your world feels like it is crashing down but you can get past all of this.

Thank you for being so selfless. It amazes me how you do it sometimes, but thank you for always making everyone your main priority when they need you.

I know I may not say it enough, but truly thank you for all you do for me. I don’t always know how to show how much someone means to me, especially when it is someone as great as you because I don’t know what I did to deserve you, but thank you.

I love you.

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14 Things You Relate To If You Grew Up WithOUT Any Cousins

*GASP* "What, you really don't have any cousins?"


It always shocks every person who hears me state that I do not have any cousins. For some reason, this is just hard for people to really believe when it's actually not something impossible. I think we are all just so used to large families that it sounds weird when people say that they have no cousins. Yet, it is definitely a potential reality, and actually impossible if each of your parents is the only child to your grandparents.

Here are 14 things that you can relate to if you grew up without any cousins.

1. Nobody believes you when you say that you don't have any cousins

I'm serious, for the tenth time.

2. Your grandparents spoil you

With no other grandchildren to worry about, it's pretty easy to do.

3. You don't understand when people say that cousins are your first best friends

My best friend was my first best friend.

4. You and your siblings are always the youngest people at family events

This was simultaneosuly a good thing and a bad thing.

5. You get all of the attention at holidays

Since you're the youngest one around, then distant relatives are always doting over you.

6. Everything you do is deemed awesome by your extended family because there is nobody to compete with

It's much easier to be praised when you aren't being compared to someone similar to your age.

7. You don't know how to hold babies

You're never around them so why would you?

8. Family photos are pretty easy to coordinate

The less people, the easier.

9. Other family members spoil you just because 

Afterall, you are the only kid around...

10. The family will make comments regarding the potential for you to have a cousin as a justification for why they aren't doing something for you

When you hear, "I can't buy you too much because someday your aunt is going to have kids and I will have to do the same for them" you cringe and just had to know that all of the attention wouldn't last forever.

11. Birthdays are always a big deal

A perk of not having very many to remember.

12. If your parents' siblings own pets, then you refer to the animal as your cousin

Cat cousins, dog cousins, lizard cousins, and fish cousins can be pretty cool, actually.

13. Sometimes you dream of marrying into a big family

This is to ensure that your kids do grow up with cousins.

14. You appreciate the closeness of your tight-knit fam

Maybe the only thing you would miss if you had a big family is the opportunity to develop such close bonds with the few relatives that you do have.

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