A couple of months ago, I was sitting in my sister's bedroom crying my eyeballs out. Can you guess why? A boy of course. Although I am very open about my love life to my oldest sister, this time she had no idea what to respond back.
A couple of days passed and she sent me this letter... a letter I believe everyone should read and realize what they deserve.
"I wish I could make it better. I wish I could make you understand that you are worth so much more than you think you are. I wish I would’ve told you you were pretty and wonderful more often. I’m sorry if I in some way contributed to you feeling like you are less than you are. I wish I could have you see yourself the way I do.
I admire you for all that you have been through, for all that we have been through together. I wish you would cut off those people in your life who only bring you pain. Love isn’t supposed to hurt.
Sure, you’ll have arguments in any relationship. After all, we are flawed beings who experience challenges daily. But you should be with someone that you’d look forward to seeing always. Someone who make your load a little lighter. Just because you gave yourself to someone shitty doesn’t mean that you have to make it work with them. It doesn’t mean you have to get stuck.
I know everyone says things like that, usually when they’re in happy relationships and have forgotten how hard being single is. But being single is also a time of freedom. A time to focus on loving yourself. If you don’t love yourself, how can you expect others to love you right? I’m getting all “perks of being a wallflower” now but that quote “we accept the love we think we deserve” has never been truer.
If you don’t love yourself, if you don’t think you are wonderful, you won’t strive to find someone who feels that way about you. If you think you are mediocre or less than what you are, you will settle for the type of person you think could love that.
You are worthy of an amazing and powerful love. You should be with someone who is willing to make sacrifices for you, and who makes you feel special and cares about your feelings. Someone who would never willingly hurt you.
Love is about devotion and care for someone else. Don’t give your heart to someone who does not appreciate you, or who is too immature to act like a decent human being. You deserve so much more. I wish you would see that."
