So if you're anything like me you have divorced parents. I just want you to know that everything WILL BE OK. There will be times where you sit in your room and cry looking back at old family photos wondering where it went wrong, and that’s okay. Having parents who are separated is tough and can cause some stress in your life but those moments won't affect you years down the road. Instead of letting it bring you down sometimes, let it lift you up.
My parent's divorce only made me stronger as a person. If you give it the power to affect you in every aspect, it will. Some girls come from homes where all they have ever known was that their parents didn’t work out. Just because you come from a home that doesn’t have married parents doesn’t mean you have a bad family it just means that there was a different plan for your family. Remember: Everything happens for a reason whether we like it or not. I also want to tell you this: DO NOT let it affect your future relationship with guys. Yes, you may have some trust issues or some doubt in your mind but.. YOU ARE NOT YOUR PARENTS! Although you take after them in many ways, you still are your own person.
They are trying to raise you so you do not make the same mistakes they did. Learn from their mistakes, but don’t think they will happen to you as well. Those poor boys that date us may not understand why sometimes we act the way we do or understand why we feel the way we do. Honestly, boys will never understand girls completely, and if a girl is letting her parents divorce affect her relationship, then the boy will really never understand you. Your life decisions are not based on your parents but your own decisions. No matter the reason of why your parents got a divorced, do not hold a grudge on them. You never know how long you have left with your parents. Forgive them and move on.
You are their child and all they want is love from you. Let their relationship problems be their own relationship problems. Now, the whole holiday ordeal can be stressful too at times. You feel obligated to be with one and then the other gets upset. Find compromises and do what makes YOU happy. If you spend your life trying to satisfy both your parents on holidays, you will end up ruining your holiday. Embrace the fact that you come from a broken home. Let it make you grow as a person. Do not use it as an excuse. Do not envy other people for having parents who are happily married, instead get them to appreciate their parents even more. You may come from a broken home but you, yourself are not broken. You are strong, independent, and full of life. One more thing. You may be a daughter of divorced parents, but you are a daughter and child of God, and that is what really matters.
