Dear Jealous Girl,
First let me say that you are not a bad person. We have all been you at some point. We've seen someone who makes us feel like we aren't enough. We let that feeling overcome us. We obsess over someone who seems better.
That girl next door may have better hair. That girl at the gym seems to run so effortlessly, and she is in such good shape. That boy in English is just so smart.
Sometimes you may even start to have these thoughts towards friends. "Why did they get engaged and not me? I've been dating my boyfriend longer" " She is so pretty, Why can't I be her?" The thoughts go on and on. The questions multiply.
But beautiful girl, you don't have to suffer through these thoughts.
These thoughts and questions only hurt you. They can also hurt your own friendships and relationships. They can make you believe that you are not special.
But lovely girl, you are special. You are worthy. You are incredible.
There will always be someone who seems prettier, smarter, better. But the only person who can decide if these things matter, is you. You can choose to look past the vanities of life, the nonsense that makes people look at each other as rankings instead of as human beings. You can choose not to care.
You can take your jealousy and do something about it. You can decide if you will let it consume you, let it make you feel bad. Or you can decide to let it make you into a better person, one who knows their worth is measured by how they live their life and react to the lies our minds tell us.
Jealousy is a natural feeling. But so is happiness and joy. Accept who you are and fill your mind with positive thoughts. The world has too much negativity, we don't need to be our own enemy.
So be happy for your friend on their engagement. Smile at the boy who seems to know so much. Because while you have these feelings of jealousy towards them, you will be surprised to find out that the engaged girl is jealous of how free you are, or the boy is jealous of how carefree you seem to be. You might be the source of someone else's jealousy.
Remember that jealousy happens. It is okay to have these thoughts. But you are a lovely creature, and you simply do not need to be jealous. You are perfect for who you are.
Take care of yourself.
With love,
Amy
