An Open Letter To My Freshman Year Self

An Open Letter To My Freshman Year Self


First things first, take a deep breath.

And another.

And another.

OK, are you ready now?

Dear Freshman Self,

Everything is OK, and everything will be OK.

You are such a caring, thoughtful, and courageous young woman and you are going to really learn how strong you are in the next couple of years. I know you feel lost and overwhelmed and are adjusting to a new place but please don't take it all so seriously. This time will fly by, I promise you.

You are worth so much. Please surround yourself with people who make you feel that. All your life you have had friends just because you didn't have many to choose from, but now the choices are endless. Be selective in who you surround yourself with. It is OK to not click with people and to choose to no longer have them in your life. This is your book and you get to choose the characters. Don't let the natural process of friends coming and going from your life leave you so distressed, this is a blessing. Truly wonderful people are waiting for you, and this is making room for them.

Let him go. Let the yelling go. Let the fighting go. Let the constant stress go. You will feel as if the weight of the world has been released from your shoulders.

When you do let him go (and you will because even as a freshman you still kick ass) enjoy the time by yourself for a bit. Don't jump into the arms of another because you aren't sure how to be by yourself yet. You will figure it out. You are capable, I promise.

If it doesn't feel right then get up and go. YOU CAN SAY NO. You can say no to any situation at any time. Does that make sense to you? Please let that really sink into your head. At any point in time you can choose to change a situation. Later on you will realize how you wish you had done this more. This is your life, stop being afraid to make decisions and confront people. If someone is being sh**ty it is not your responsibility to make them feel OK about it.

You don't have to do it all. You don't have to work three jobs. You don't have to stay up all night. You don't have to go to every party and do amazing in every class. You are adjusting and figuring it all out and that is OK. Take a moment to breathe.

Continue to try new things and put yourself out there. You will meet people this way. The insecurity of trying new things won't last forever. Thank you for the courageous decisions you made and for finally being yourself. Your personality finally came through freshman year and we have really come a long way because of it.

The mistakes you're making are OK, I promise I survived the aftermath.

Lastly, enjoy this time. You are blessed to be exactly where you are. This time will fly by, you will grow, and you will change. But for the meantime, just enjoy it.

Love You More Each Day,

Your Proud Senior Year Self

P.S- I get you may have started out with a major you didn't enjoy, but please try to figure this out ASAP, because switching majors is a pain in the ass.

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The 6 Stages Of Packing Up And Moving Home For The Summer

The last obstacle between you and summer isn't a final, it's packing up your dorm.

The end of winter semester is here, and it is already time to go home for summer break. By the time y'all are reading this, I will have moved out of my dorm in back into my house in Toledo. Those of you who know me, know that packing is the bane of my existence. Trying to pack up virtually all of your belongings in the middle of finals week is not something I would wish on my worst enemy, but it has to be done. With that being said, here are six things I experienced while packing to move home for the summer.

1. Procrastination

I keep telling myself, "well my checkout time isn't until Friday at 1:00pm, so do I really have to do this right now?"

2. Frustration

When I finally decided to start, I took a look around the room and realized that I had brought way too much stuff up here with me.

3. Sadness

I guess a better word to use here would've been sentimental because as I was packing, I was thinking about all of the good times that have happened and all of the memories that were made here.

4. Frustration Part II.

After my pity party, I took another look around the room again and realized I had barely made a dent in this process.

5. Acceptance

Eventually, I came to terms with the fact that I needed to move on with this process so all I would have to do on move out day is turn in my keys to my RA.

6. Relief

I finally finished and was able to move out of my 12x12 home away from home. I took a sigh of relief as I loaded everything in my car; just to realize I would have to undo all of this in an hour when I get to Toledo and then redo all of it four months when I come back to Ypsi.

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10 Things We All Do From Time To Time, Even Though We Know We Shouldn't

Things I really can't believe I do.

We all have a list of things that we do that we know we shouldn't buuuttt we do them anyways. I have a bunch of things that every time I am about to do or I have just done I stop and say, "Really? Did you just do that again?!'"

Here's a list of 7 things that we all do, from time to time even though we know we really shouldn't.

1. Reading the last page of a book:

I have a tendency to read the final moments of a book to see if I will be disappointed or not. I don't necessarily read the final plotline, however, I am looking to see the general mood of the character so that I can mentally prepare myself.

2. Reading the SparkNotes version instead of the book:

I take six classes a semester. If you add each book in for all of my classes that are due each day it would equal an unfathomable number. Solution: read the condensed and quick version online and then go to class and bull shit your way through each lecture.

Note: sit next to the smart kid in class and mimic what they say.

3. Skipping class religiously.

While I want my degree, I am not really keen on going to class all that often. I have about a billion things to do in one day and sometimes listening to a teacher talk in a monotone voice about Shakespeare for the forty millionth time is extremely unappealing.

4. Not drinking the last sip of soda.

When you crack a soda for the first time it has that wonderful burning fizz to it, however, by the time you get to the end, the soda is flat. My house is covered in half drank bottles. My mother has even gone as far as to say, "You can't open another one until you finish the one that is still sitting on the counter from last week with a single sip left in it." She's mean.

5. Living in denial:

When (spoiler) Lexi Grey died in the season 8 finale of "Grey's Anatomy" I did not watch the show for several years. To this day when I re-watch the show, I skip the episode where she, George, Henry, Derek, and Mark die. I cannot and I will not live through that pain again.

6. Reading the synopsis of a show/movie before watching it.

Because I can't handle the pain of my favorite characters dying (see number 5) I often will read the entire plot of a movie or show so that I know I can handle the bad that is about to happen. This is a serious issue that I have.

7. Spending money you really don't have.

I often tell myself things like, "You need to buy this book," or "You haven't had your caffeine fix for the day," or "You need more caffeine to keep your addicted-self going," or "Oooooh this fabric would look really nice on a quilt I am going to make five years in the future." (yes, I am an old lady) and I definitely do NOT have the money to buy these things.

8. Making things out to be greater than they are.

I often pretend I am doing better in a class than I really am. I see my midterm grade and I tell myself I still have time. I am a week out from finals and I still tell myself I have time. I do not have time and my grades are not that good.

9. Pretending you don't know how to do things.

When I know that my boss or my mother (I think those are the same things) want me to do something that I don't want to do, I pretend that I don't know how to do them. In the future, the hope is that they remember that I don't know how to do a basic task and they leave me alone to read my book.

10. Letting your car reach empty and then you just keep driving.

I hate filling up my gas tank because

1) It cost too much money and

2) It feels like a chore.

My car makes this annoying ring when it gets low so I turn up my radio as loud as it will go and pretend it's not telling me "you're a bad adult."

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