If you are anything like me, you love people with every bit of your heart and soul. DON'T let anyone ever tell you that that is a bad thing, because it's not. Being wide open for people to feel loved and cared for is not a flaw. But being so open does come with it's fair share of pains. Open, loving and caring people are magnets for the chronically toxic.
The problem with toxic people is that when they come into your life, they never seem toxic. They're always sweet and caring and like curly teddy bears of love and comfort. Then, they get comfortable. The second they get comfortable, the toxicity slowly leaks out of them like a gas leak. You never really notice it at first, but one little spark, never fails to cause an explosion that can leave you scared for life, if you let it.
Please, for your sake, don't let them hurt you, because they will and they will make it seem like it is your fault and it is never your fault. Toxic people are so unhappy with themselves, they feed, like leaches, upon other people's happiness thinking that through proximity it will in turn make them happy and content in their own lives. They will never feel content in their own lives until they start to recognize that they are the source of their own unhappiness.
They only issue with their chosen road to self-realization is the many casualties they leave behind. Toxic people need other people's love in order to love themselves but always break the people loving them because to them it's not enough love. These types of people are miserable and will never realize that their misery starts with themselves until they are left lonely to reflect upon themselves.
Over the past few months, I've had to clean my life of the toxic people and am still in the process of it and I can promise you it's not an easy, painless task but you will be better off when you finally cut them out. Soon you will feel liberated and like the weight on your chest has been lifted. Trust me, it's hard and it hurts like hell. But I can guarantee you that you've shed more tears for your toxic person than that person has EVER shed for hurting you.
To them, your pain and your tears are your fault because they cannot see the wrong they are doing. I've tried to fix my toxic people and that hurts 1000% more when you have to cut them out of your life because you feel like you have failed. You can't fix people that don't want your help. You can't love people who don't care. Well, actually you can, otherwise we wouldn't be feeling this kind of pain, but we shouldn't.
I can't give you advice because every toxic person and every toxic situation is different. But if you can find your way to YOUR happiness, please do not let them drag you down. You and your self worth are worth more than any toxicity in your life. Remember that.
Sincerely,
Someone who was once you
