Sounds pretty harsh to call you that, but since I do not know you're name, that is what I will refer to you as.
This letter isn't meant to sound bitter or try and show that I hold grudges on what has happened in my past, this letter is simply to try and explain to you guys and girls the different types of impacts your actions has on your significant other.
You may think what you did was an innocent act of fun, but it is so much more than that to us. You made the choice to step outside of the relationship and find comfort elsewhere. We were not the first thing on your mind when you went through with your actions and that speaks volumes to us.
You still may think that your one time fling was nothing, but to us it means the world as we know it just came crashing down. The one person we thought we could rely on turns out to be the selfish enemy we try to avoid on a daily basis. You had a choice and you made the selfish choice. Us on the other hand? We had no choice. We now have to pick up the shattered pieces on our own.
Take it from me personally, don't try and beg them to stay. Majority of the time, you make promises you don't end up following through with and it causes us to go through an even more emotional rollercoaster ride. We do lose who we are, it causes us to question every little thing about us.
Was I not pretty enough, was I not good looking enough, was I not thin enough, what did he/she have that I didn't? But, it doesn't just stop there. We create this mental picture in our head of how everything went down. We torture ourselves, so while you went out and had the time of your life, we pay the consequences of your actions. So essentially, go f*ck yourself.
If your selfish ass needs to go down your thing, please just do it and don't drag us into your life crisis bullsh*t. Believe it or not, it is actually a lot easier to break up with your significant other and do what you need to do instead of dragging them in your mess. It is much better to communicate with the person you're with instead of going behind their back and doing something you know you will end up regretting. If you care about them, let them go. Let them find their happiness. Don't add more to their life by having them learn to cope with the fact that you cheated on them. It's one of the most selfish things you can do in a relationship, just don't be a selfish prick that's really it.
Someone who has been cheated on more than she can count