An Open Letter To Anyone Single After a Long-Term Relationship

An Open Letter To Anyone Single After a Long-Term Relationship

Your life is just getting started.

No matter what long-term may mean to you, it's never easy being alone after being with someone whom you thought you were going to be with forever. The nights seem to pass by longer, the days seem a little duller. When you have exciting news or something goes wrong, you remember that you can't tell them about it. You suddenly begin to realize how much time you invested into one person, and you wonder if it's even possible to have that kind of connection with another person ever again. Well, I'm here to tell you that it is possible, and that there's a whole world for you to discover now.

Don't get me wrong, coming out of a serious relationship is painful. The pain is usually all one can focus on afterwards, but there are so many great adventures and opportunities that have yet to happen. Time becomes your best friend in an abundance of ways. Time will help you heal and things become easier to do alone after a while. This gives you the chance to learn so much about yourself and find out who you really are. I spent about four years with someone and thought I knew who I was, but after breaking up I realized that I really didn't know anything about who I was. I felt the need to have someone by my side at all times, I had no idea whom to turn to when things weren't OK, I didn't know if anyone would be able to understand and love me the way my ex had. After about almost two years of being single, no one had understood or loved me the same way. I was loved better than before. My family, my friends, my mentors -- they all take the time to listen to me when things go right or wrong. They helped shape me into someone who is independent and strong. I realized that love can come in so many different forms, and they all fulfill equally. I learned that self-love after so much self-doubt is the most important. You are important and amazing and there are so many grand qualities that can only improve from here on out.

Focusing on yourself leaves room for so many opportunities. Having fun with your friends by traveling, going out, or just being weird together is an adventure in itself. Just knowing that you have people who want to make memories with you and tag you in funny memes on the internet means so much, and knowing they'll be there for you years from now just leaves room for more laughs and more stories to create. You also come to realize what you really want in a relationship. You meet new people and find that qualities you once thought were charming are not so charming anymore. You get to work for what you really want in life. Where you want to live, what you want to do, whom you want to inspire, and what changes can you make for your community are all things that don't have to be compromised according to someone else's needs. It's also quite nice to receive compliments from several random people when you're walking about your business and slaying at life. People will notice the change in your confidence. It's like finally blooming into who you were really meant to be, and things fall into place. You don't need to try to find someone to love you because the right person will already love you for you. After all, when someone notices how much you love yourself, it'll all be much easier for them to fall in love with you too.

So, being single isn't bad, and the experience you gained gives you so much insight for anything that tries to tackle you in life. You know how to love and comfort those around you, and people will learn from you. There are so many positives that come from this, and you get to write a new chapter in your life. And when you do stumble cross that special person, you know that you can give a greater love, a selfless love. Until then, you do you, boo.

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You'll never understand how incredibly blessed I am to have you in my life. You'll also never understand how special you are to me and how much I love you.

I can't thank you enough for countless days and nights at your house venting, and never being too busy when I need you. Thank you for the shopping days and always helping me find the best deals on the cutest clothes. For all the appointments I didn't want to go to by myself. Thank you for making two prom days and a graduation party days I could never forget. Thank you for being overprotective when it comes to the men in my life.

Most importantly, thank you for being my support system throughout the numerous highs and lows my life has brought me. Thank you for being honest even when it isn't what I want to hear. Thank you for always keeping my feet on the ground and keeping me sane when I feel like freaking out. Thank you for always supporting whatever dream I choose to chase that day. Thank you for being a second mom. Thank you for bringing me into your family and treating me like one of your own, for making me feel special because you do not have an obligation to spend time with me.

You've been my hero and role model from the time you came into my life. You don't know how to say no when family comes to you for help. You're understanding, kind, fun, full of life and you have the biggest heart. However, you're honest and strong and sometimes a little intimidating. No matter what will always have a special place in my heart.

There is no possible way to ever thank you for every thing you have done for me and will continue to do for me. Thank you for being you.

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7 Things To Remember When You're Sad About Being Single

I don't need a significant other, I have my significant self.


Let's stop the stigma around being single. Those who aren't in a relationship are not "weak," "missing out," "lonely," etc. We're doing just fine on our own, honey. There may be many plus sides of being in a relationship such as having a cuddle buddy, someone who, without a doubt, will always buy you food, or sharing your love for in each other in endless, cute ways. Buuuuttt... let's not forget these reasons why being single can be so amazing!

1. You save money 

Less shopping for you on Valentine's Day, birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, etc. SAVE THAT MONEY, HONEY!

2. You can flirt with whoever you want...

...for the most part, at least. Definitely not if they already have a significant other. But now, you don't have to feel guilty for having googly eyes for someone else!

3. You can completely unplug whenever 

You don't have to worry about constantly keeping tabs on someone. No more answering to someone's every call. You can go completely tech-free whenever!

4. You have more time... find yourself, love yourself, and put yourself first. Also, just more time to watch Netflix and hang with family and friends.

5. You are saying goodbye to heartbreak 

No one can breakup with you if you're single, #facts.

6. Everything you do is for yourself 

Decision making can be hard as it is, so making decisions that benefit you AND another person can be draining. Now, you don't have to worry about making someone else happy.

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