First of all, it is OKAY if you are single! There is absolutely nothing wrong with it, no matter how many people that are going to ask you "did you find someone yet?", "Have you went on any dates?", "Seeing anyone new?" No, no and no. Okay, we get it your grandma wants you to fall in love and get married before she is gone, but I don't get the constant questioning. Why is there such a problem if you’re 21 years old and don't have a boyfriend?
I feel like people think you need to have a significant other to be "okay" or feel "complete" and that is definitely not the case. Yes, maybe in the future I will find a boyfriend but I am content with my life right now. I don't see what the whole rush is? I'm 21 years old, I want to live my life, I want to travel, hang out with my friends, spend time with my family and do amazingly great in my last years of school. I don't understand why I have to have a boyfriend right now. I literally have my whole life to find someone to love and have a relationship.
I feel like these are the years you are finally legal finally able to have a great time and get to know yourself. How does the saying go? " you can't love someone without loving yourself first". That statement is exactly true, if you don't get to know who you really are then how are you able to give yourself to someone else? One day it'll be the right time, and I'll find someone and be in a relationship. But until then I am going to live my life the way I want, I’ll go on as many vacations as I want too and hang out with my friends daily. I get that in the 60’s, 70’s, and 80’s people were getting married and having babies at 20 but in 2016 this has all changed.
When I get married I want it to be my first marriage and my last, I want to spend the rest of my life with that person and love every minute of it. I don't want to say, “I never got the time to enjoy being me and doing what I want without having to answer to someone else”. I want to be able to say, “I have lived my life without my husband and lived it with him, and I know who I am with and without him and I love every part”. So basically I am saying that there is nothing wrong with you if you don't have a boyfriend/girlfriend in your twenties. It is OKAY if you aren't looking and don't really mind it because you aren't alone, enjoy your twenties, make memories and don't settle for just anyone because you are worth much more than that.
P.S., if your grandma tells you to also go on websites to find a nice boy, or go to the local disco just say thanks but no thanks, and let her down gently.
