Dear guy who asks me to hang out,
I really enjoy spending time with you, and by the way you always ask me to hang out, I think you enjoy my company, too. I love how we text each other into the wee hours of the morning about life's deepest questions and how you always ask how my day went. But I can't help but wonder, how do you really feel about me?
No, scratch that. This is going to be frank: do you want to go out with me? Then ask me on a real date! No more of this "hanging out" stuff. "Hanging out" is so ambiguous. What does it even mean to "hang out"? Am I supposed to get all dolled up and wear something nice to watch a movie in my apartment? Or is it cool if I rock my sweats because it's Friday night and I've had a long week? Just tell me how you actually feel! I understand that it's intimidating to ask a girl out, but trust me, it's just as nerve-racking to have to decipher a guy's intentions. It's like you're constantly stuck in limbo between friends and something more. I know that guys and girls can be just friends - this is the twenty-first century, for goodness sake - but how am I supposed to know for certain which one you want to be when you stay in my apartment til after midnight flirting with me?
We have a lot in common, and I feel like we really get along. When we first were getting to know each other, I tried really hard to get you to see that I would say yes if you asked me on a date. I invited you over to spend time with my friends, I told you personal details about my past, I opened up to you and asked you for help. But all you ever asked to do was "hang out." Is that the same thing as a date to you? If we really are "just friends," then you need to specifically tell me that.
As a girl, I overanalyze EVERYTHING, and trust me, I do mean everything. You text me "hi" with a smiley face? I start thinking "oh, he's happy to talk to me!" But are you just jovial and sharing your good mood, or are your trying to be flirty? A courtship and, in turn, a relationship, cannot be built on flirty texts and heart-eyed emojis.
But, you waited too long. This ship has sailed. Your indecision let me slip away, and I found someone else. I'm incredibly happy, and I hope you can be happy for me. I'm writing this letter so that you, and other guys like you, can learn that the way to a girl's heart isn't to ask her to "hang out," but to actually ask her out in person on a real date. We may be in 2016, but dating is not dead. Courtship is not dead. If you do, in fact, just want to hang out, MAKE THAT CLEAR.
Sincerely,
The girl with a smoking hot boyfriend who actually asked me on dates
