I used to believe there was someone for each of us. I also thought that whoever coined the saying “there’s other fish in the sea,” seemed to imply that being alone is looked down upon. However, when you finally realize that you need to do some growing on your own, there is a contentment that could be reached.
When you think about it, being alone is not that bad. Okay, you may see all the couples placing their hands together and giving each other kisses and you think, “that seems nice. I want that.” Obviously, there's more to it than that. Growing up, I learned that relationships are difficult to keep together; if both sides are not pushing and pulling the same amount of weight, then that bond cracks. Thoughts and feelings are kept inside, and the worst happens: assumptions are most convincing. As time goes on, if not taken care of properly, those pieces will chip away.
It may be a little lonesome, but it is doable. There are many advantages to being alone. Other than not worrying about another person's feelings concerning anything you do, you get to focus on yourself, learn more about you, and become that better version of yourself that will eventually be found. It could be with someone or not. Giving yourself time to be alone but not lonely is a vital lesson in life. There are times when you cannot depend on people that you trust, so you must first learn how to depend on yourself for even the littlest things before asking someone for help. How will the other person feel if they were doing all the work for you? If I was not working as hard as I am today, then I probably would have stopped trying to reach all of my goals altogether. The 'less assertive me' would have hoped that maybe someday some stranger will put in a good word for me to get to point A to point B.
Even if you do not realize it right now, love is actually everywhere. It could be in the errands you run for your parents. You might not like the chores you need to do or groceries you have to buy, but you carry on with it because you love them no matter how annoying they may be. Love may even follow you to the school you choose to graduate from. The one that might lead you to your dream job or backpacking in another country. Maybe doing more of what you love while wandering around on your own will pave a road for you to a better life.
A life as a wanderer does not have to be bad unless you choose for it to be. Sometimes there are events in your life that you won't be able to control. Let it get hectic. Let it become chaotic. You will appreciate the calm when it comes back to you like it always does. Love is silent and it can also be loud. It is in everything and it is everywhere. When you feel as if love is hopeless, think again and try one more time. It is there even when you may not see it. Similar to the light switch you reach for in the dark, or the candle you know will burn a bright flame when lit. Everyone wanders at some point in their lives, just remember to love more through your actions and in the words that you speak.
