(Note: Please forgive the amount of sap in this article, but I don’t thinkenough men talk adequately about their feelings of love and affection for their significant others. I am hoping to change the trend.)
Most recently I wrote about my cobbled-together philosophy concerning love—and now look at the ego on me, calling the cobwebs in my head a “philosophy.” As I said before I don’t know what I’m even doing most times, and with my slow learning curve I doubt I ever will; but there are some things that occur outside of one’s own personal realm of knowledge and experience, and given the blessing that just latched itself onto my life I have no complaints.
See, I have fallen in love with my best friend, and we’ve been dating for a bit, and what could be better than dating your best friend.
I met the girl who’s now my girlfriend on November 7, 2015, on one of her friend’s film sets; she’s a graduate film student at the school I attend, and I was asked to play a sports announcer. I caught her smile the moment I first laid eyes on her, and my eyes perked up. Somehow we started talking, and then she started laughing at my corny jokes—for a brief moment I felt this supreme joy. We spent the rest of our time together on set laughing and joking, with casual asides now and then for me to dance to “Uptown Funk” (don’t judge, you don’t know my life). By the end of the day I was glad, for I had made a new friend.
You could probably figure out from that little anecdote that I had feelings for this girl even then, but I didn’t realize it at the time and besides I was seeing someone else from back home anyway. So for the next several months I would see this girl here and there on campus, and we’d hang out either in the mess hall or in the student center, and more and more she became the best friend I know her now as. Everyone on campus saw us talking together, and they could see something that neither of us did until far later.
It was on May 7 that she became my girlfriend. My relationship with this great girl from back home came to an unfortunate but amicable close (due to the distance), and I came to the most important decision of my life, that being to stop ignoring the growing feeling in my gut and ask the cute film student out. She asked me why I didn’t ask her sooner and the rest is history.
I could talk for hours about this girl. She is a woman of faith, grounded and stronger than she realizes. She’s cute even when she’s mad, and she is generous and with a warm heart. Of course it helps that she’s also the most beautiful girl on campus. But most important of all she’s my best friend, and I couldn’t ask for better than that.
That’s the way it is folks. I am dating my best friend, and I love her. It feels so good just to say it.
