Reading through the pages filled with names of peers you spent 12+ years with through school. “ Stay in touch!” “ I’ll miss you!” “Can’t wait to see you on breaks!” How much of all of these are actually true? Before you go away to college when still in high school, it’s easy to say that you will keep in contact and talk to your friends. Almost a semester through, and some friendships are the same and some different, not necessarily in a negative way.
The friends you snapchat:
Snapchats can go a long way, even if they are 4-second pictures. There are those friends who you may see something funny or have some nostalgic experience so you send them a quick snapchat of it. These friends don’t mean any less, but it may just not be necessary to have full on conversations with through text and snapchat is a sufficient way to stay in touch with your separate lives.
The friends you don’t talk too, but catch up with at home:
Pretty much the forms of contact that you’ve had is scheduling when to meet up at home. That hour or two hours of catching up on every aspect of life school, friendships, relationships, roommates etc. is the perfect amount of time and energy to feel confident in your friendship and keep it rolling. Sometimes its simply refreshing and nice to see an old face, and reminisce on old times and talk about your separate new ventures.
The active group chat:
This is the group chat that you have had since high school, and you still talk in frequently, if not everyday. For this kind of friendship no matter how large the group, you're all pretty updated on each others life just like it was then. It still isn’t anything like at home being with each other, but at least one fragment of the friendship is a constant.
The dormant group chat:
This group chat was once alive, it was once the slew of messages on your lock screen consistently. Since college, the different directions of life and pathways you all have this group chat has gone into a sort of dormant state; it isn’t deleted or gone forever, but just through a period of rest. The minute you are all reunited however.
Your best friend:
My person, my best friend. I didn’t have any doubt that the distance would negatively impact this friendship. Even if it isn't every day talking, we will always be there to check in and make sure that each other is okay. It isn't work to keep this one going, or to even stay in contact because it inevitably is just going to happen.
The friends you thought you’d talk to more:
I thought that maybe we’d talk everyday, Face Time, phone call etc. but that’s okay. In both of our schedules it is simply difficult to find the time. I miss talking like we used too, and knowing how your good days and bad days were going, the little things that happened to you and me and the laughs we would share about them.
The stars:
The friend that you rarely talk too, you may not even make time for or see home on breaks, but you know is forever there. I think college has changed this relationship in the sense of appreciation. I appreciate that if I was to ever call, text or even show up at you feet, you would be there like you always were.
