In life, I have learned that sometimes the only option is to walk away. It usually hurts more than anything. But, it is then when you gain your strength. These relationships can be family, romantic, or friends. It does not matter. They are strong bonds that you cherish. Relationships that you hope will outlast the time. But, that is not always the case.
The people who I once valued above everyone, I had to let them go. But, keeping those relationships was toxic. Sometimes it was just a matter of time. We both had outgrown the other, and it was time to say goodbye. Other times, the ones that hurt the worst. Those are the ones where they outgrow you, but you haven't outgrown them.
It is easy to feel nostalgic when it is over. You are no longer living that relationship. Thus, it is easy to idealize that is was something that it was not. But, you have to keep the nostalgia at bay. You can cherish the memories that you built. But, you can not live in those memories. Put them in a box somewhere in your heart or brain to live.
Walk away from that person for good. It is easy to fall back into old habits. Once you build a relationship with someone, you feel at home with them. But keep in mind that they are no longer your home. They are now the empty place that once was home. But, now in the present, they do not and will not keep you safe. You have to protect yourself.
It is okay to miss them. It is okay to have bad days. The days where you want to talk to them or think of them. But, those days will only lead to the good days. Missing someone means that you invested yourself in that person. You care for others, even if they did not care for you.
In the past year, I have walked away from some of the most important people in my life. The people whom I thought would be there to make memories for years to come. But, that did not happen. That is okay. That does not mean that my life is any less than. Rather it means that there is a new aspect, new people, and new memories.
