It Is Okay To Not Be Okay

It Is OK To Not Be OK

Don't let the smile fool you. I may be smiling on the outside, but I am really screaming on the inside.


We all have our moments where we just want to pull a Troy Bolton in High School Musical 3 and scream at the top of our lungs in our safe place. Sometimes life is overwhelming and you just have to let all of your emotions out one way or another. If you're like me I always try my best to hold it all in until I am beyond overwhelmed and when that happens let the flow of emotions combust. We all think that we have to stay strong and put on this strong face. If you know me then you will know that no matter what is going on in my life I will always have a smile on my face, even if my emotions are clawing at me to come out. It is a rare occurrence when I cry outside of my own room. I only cry when I am alone whether it is in my room, my bathroom, especially when I am taking a shower.

Whenever I am crying I am always told that I am not a little kid anymore and how I should not be crying but, I always tell myself that if crying helps me then it is okay. Telling myself that made me realize that if it is okay for me to cry then it is perfectly okay to not be okay. Yes, I may not want the entire world to know that something is wrong with me but that does not mean that I should be putting on this strong face for the world. I should not have to pretend that I am always this bubbly girl and I should not have to be this strong person for everyone. Sometimes I need someone to be that shoulder for me to cry on, I need that person to just listen to me, but most of all; I want people to understand that it is perfectly okay to not be okay all of the time.

This day and age we all feel like we have to be a certain person and we have to keep up an appearance. We all believe that it's a weakness to accept that we are not okay. We believe that we have to hide all of our emotions when we are down but in reality, we don't have to hide anything. It is okay to accept that we are not okay. It is okay to show our emotions when we are down. It is okay to just want to cry when you need to let it all out. It is okay to not be okay and there is nothing weak about that.

So if you feel like you need to let all of your emotions out because you can't just hold it in anymore, do it. There is nothing wrong with it. You don't need to feel ashamed for letting go of all the frustration or for letting go of whatever is holding you back. Do what you need to do to make you feel okay again. I promise you that once you realize that you aren't okay things will get better. Once you accept that it is okay to not be okay you will feel better about everything and only then will you be able to share that beautiful smile you have with the world.

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When You Make A Girl An Aunt, You Change Her World In All The Best Ways

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the happiest girl in the world.


My brother and his wife recently blessed our family with the sweetest bundle of joy on planet earth. OK, I may be a little bias but I believe it to be completely true. I have never been baby crazy, but this sweet-cheeked angel is the only exception. I am at an age where I do not want children yet, but being able to love on my nephew like he is my own is so satisfying.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her a very protective person.

From making sure the car seat is strapped in properly before every trip, to watching baby boy breathe while he sleeps, you'll never meet someone, besides mommy and daddy of course, who is more concerned with the safety of that little person than me.

When you make a girl an aunt, you give her a miniature best friend.

There is something about an aunt that is so fun. An aunt is a person you go to when you think you're in trouble or when you want something mom and dad said you couldn't have. An aunt is someone who takes you to get ice cream and play in the park to cool down after having a temper tantrum. I can't wait to be the one he runs to.

When you make a girl an aunt, she gets to skip on the difficulty of disciplining.

Being an aunt means you get to be fun. Not to say I wouldn't correct my nephew if he were behaving poorly, but for the most part, I get to giggle and play and leave the hard stuff for my brother.

When you make a girl an aunt, you give her the best listening ears.

As of right now I only listen to the sweet coos and hungry cries but I am fully prepared to listen to all the problems in his life in the future.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the best advice giver.

By the time my nephew needs advice, hopefully, I will have all of my life lessons perfected into relatable stories.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her a number-one fan

Anything you do in life sweet boy, I will be cheering you on. I already know you are going to do great things.

When you make a girl an aunt, she learns what true love is.

The love I have for my nephew is so pure. Its the love that is just there. I don't have to choose to show love every day, I don't have to forgive, I don't have to worry if it is reciprocated, it is just there.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the happiest person in the world.

I cannot wait to watch my precious nephew grow into the amazing person that I know he is going to be.

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Why You Should Bring Your Close Friend As Your Formal Date

Before asking that cute girl to formal think about asking a friend


Every year since I was a junior in high school I have always looked forward to homecoming or prom. When I got to college I began to look forward to my fraternity formal. I was never concerned with what to wear or the expense of formal but rather who I was going to ask. It can be difficult to make a decision. If you ask anyone friends with me they will tell you how I am one of the most indecisive people out there. There are so many people I am friendly with or have a close relationship that it can feel difficult to make a decision. But let's look at that phrase again. You might think why does he want to bring someone who is his friend to his fraternity formal rather than someone he likes or is dating. To answer this question, some of the girls I have liked I have not been able to be the true me around and that also applies to the girls I have dated as well. I am different around my friends and I want someone to know the real me rather than me just having to pretend.

Maybe I am still experiencing the effects of a fun weekend but I have noticed that every formal or prom that I have brought a date with not only was a fun formal but interacted and connected well with my friends. That is the main thing I look for in a formal date, they need to be liked by my friends and many of them are still pretty friendly after the formal. You are spending the weekend with them and the drive down for you formal. There will be a lot of time spent with your date so it is important to bring someone you know you will have fun with. I am not saying that there isn't anything wrong with bringing someone else but I always found it best to bring a friend if you are not dating someone.

Think about the people you know you will always have fun with. This can be an indication of who you should bring and why but you should also think about the positives in this situation. Your fun and the time spent with the people should be prioritized before anything else. This event is about you and you should have someone with you that you know is fun to be around and someone you can enjoy yourself around along with your friends. Friends know you as well as you know yourself so there is not an idea of having to pretend to be someone else. The good thing about friends is that you do not run out of things to talk about and there is always something new to learn. Take your formal as a trip that you get to experience with the people closest to you. That is my take.

The key for me is to know that I will have fun with my date at formal. The drive to formal can be long and you are sharing a hotel room with your date along with spending time with them during the trip. I talk a lot. I want someone I know who I can carry a conversation with and will not just respond with words such as Yeah or Sounds good. I have always been able to remember not only my formals but specific parts of it as well. I think this is possible because of who I have brought and the memories I made with them.

Formals are important to everyone so think about who you want to spend that moment with. There is nothing wrong with bringing someone who you like but there also is nothing wrong with bringing a friend. Some people might bring someone they are dating but you should not have to compare yourself to other people. Do what makes you happy but remember this weekend is about you and you deserve to bring someone you will have fun with.

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