This is for the person who has been left so many times and gone through so many heartaches that they just want to give it all a rest and be alone. That's OK.

OK, I know this is such a cliche New Year's resolution, but it's that way for a reason! We are in the era where "self love" is at an all time high! Now, I personally don't believe in the quote "you can't love someone else until you learn to love yourself" because I personally have loved the hell out of some people while I was at my lowest, but maybe that's why it didn't work out with them.

It's OK to tell someone that you just want to be by yourself, figure you out, and be free. You are a QUEEN (or a king!) and you deserve to do what you want to do and get to know what you really want.

I know we are entering the season where it seems like everyone you graduated with is getting pregnant, engaged and married, and you're sitting there watching "Love Actually" over and over and wondering why on earth Harry would cheat on his wife, Karen, or yelling at Sarah for picking up her phone when she finally got Karl into bed. You are not alone! You may wish you had someone to explain all of this to, but grab your best friend, or just enjoy it alone. Get on Tumblr! Everyone has an opinion on everything there, so if you just want someone to talk to about your interest, you will find your fandom.

Think of all the money you will save not buying your S/O a Christmas gift. TREAT YO SELF! Or treat your best friend. 'Tis the season to tell someone "I love you this much" by putting a price on it! (I love myself a lot, obviously.)

Tell your crush you like them! Why not? Even if they don't feel the same, you'll be OK because you are embracing yourself, and you are so good with that. And if they do like you, you'll be willing to take it slow and have them discover who you are along with yourself.

Ugly cry! Why not? Pour some nice, red, bitter wine, turn on that old school Taylor Swift -- you know, anything "Fearless" through the "Red" era -- and drown your sorrows away in tragic love ballads and memories of your fallen loves. It's OK. That's part of the cleansing process.

Now realize that you are perfect. You are beautiful. You are clean. You don't need validation to be you. Love yourself, and date you! Put away the old Taylor and Adele and just jam to "Clean" or even "Let It Go." forget what happened in your past and be happy with your now.

You are so much more than the opinions of those who left you.

You are so wonderful and a blessing to each person you meet. No one else can define you, except for you.