It's okay to break down and cry. It's okay to admit to yourself and the world that you're not okay. It's okay to ask for help and to talk about your problems. That is all okay because it is okay to not always be okay.
Every time we get upset someone is there to tell us it will be okay and the thing is we know it will be okay, but when will it be okay?
You can't answer that because we don't ever give ourselves time to heal. We give ourselves a minute to breathe before we jump back into life, before we start tackling our responsibilities again and before we dive headfirst back into the monsters that attacked us in the first place.
We don't allow ourselves to heal; we just give ourselves a little rest, if anything.
We think we have to be strong all the time, we think taking mental health days to figure ourselves out makes us look weak. We think talking to a therapist is something only crazy or unstable people do. We think so negatively about anyone who reaches out to others for help.
But why?
Why do we see asking for help as such a bad thing when we've all done it?
Even asking for help with little things like to open a jar or ask relationship advice or ask what to do when you're in a certain situation. We are always asking for help, but when it comes to admitting you're not okay we act like it's a problem.
And that is the problem.
It is okay to admit you're not okay. It is okay to cry when you're feeling overwhelmed and upset. It is okay to admit you feel alone.
It is okay to talk about your problems. It doesn't make you weak, it makes you vulnerable, but it will ultimately make you stronger.
You're the only person who actually knows what is going on in your own head and you shouldn't be afraid of your own thoughts or emotions.
You're human and it's important to remember that. It's important to remember that no matter what you're allowed to have bad days. You're allowed to have a break down and you're allowed to cry. You just can't unpack your bags and live in self-pity. You have to build yourself back up. You have to glue the crumbled pieces of yourself back together and allow them to heal properly.
It's okay to admit you're not okay, but don't stay not okay. Refocus on where you were heading and if you don't like that path anymore, change it up. You're allowed to leave, you're allowed to change your mind and you're allowed to go back on a decision.
Everyone has rough patches and bad days; days where you feel like you've failed and days you don't feel good enough for anything, but those days will pass. You have to find things to do to make yourself feel better. You have to find the strength within you to uplift yourself and the world with you. You have to find it in you to become motivated by the feelings of negativity to know you no longer want to feel like that and change it.
It's okay not to be okay, as long as you don't stop trying to be better along the way.
