Matt and I met where most college individuals meet, at a party. I'm not entirely sure what came over me. I was mingling during a party and I turned around to see this very friendly looking human. So I decided to introduce myself. Honestly, the conversation just flowed and the start of our beautiful friendship had been planted.
At first, Matt and I had very different intentions when we met. He took me on a few dates, and we had a blast together. Although I was extremely comfortable with him, those romantic sparks weren't exactly there. Through and through, Matt and I started a great friendship. Our odd start of our relationship began to lead to a unique and close friendship.
Summer came along, and Matt and I talked every day. I began to realize that Matt wasn't just that friend I only saw at college. Matt started to become close with my roommates and friends at home.
Matt and I have a very unique relationship, unlike any friendship I've ever had, and because of that here are some life lessons he's taught me.
Laugh at yourself.
No, really. Matt laughs at almost all of the things that stress me out, and at all of my ridiculous stories. I've realized some things have more humor than you might think, and it's ok to laugh at them.
Bluntness isn't always bad.
If you consider yourself a people pleaser, like myself, then you can understand my struggle with this. Although, the hard truth is you can't beat around the bush with everything in life. Matt has straight up told me that my outfit looks silly, or that I'm being stupid. Because of his bluntness, he's genuine when he says everything. There's more credibility, and therefor it allows me to better help myself.
Sometimes a guy can give you the best guy advice.
I tell Matt everything. Seriously, everything. Whether he likes it or not. He has heard every embarrassing, funny, crazy, and heartbreaking story about all of the guy problems I've ever had. Matt has always given me the most straight forward advice about all of it. He also has predicted numerous things before they have happened. Most..OK 90% of the time he's been right. If it wasn't for Matt I wouldn't be with the wonderful boyfriend I have now.
F@#ked up things happen to everyone. Judging doesn't help.
We are young and we are going to mess up. Sometimes things don't work out the way we planned, and that's OK. Having that friend that will not judge me and will always make me feel comfortable with has made all of those f#@ked up things easier to get through.
Matt is that guy friend that I would call to come to girls night. He's that down to earth friend that reminds me that sometimes you can't make a mountain out of a mole hole. He's genuine and will tell me that my jeans make my butt look good, as apposed to my slouchy shorts and it will never be weird.
Everyone always asks me if it's too bad we never got together, or if I feel like I missed out on anything. I tell them the same thing every time. What could I have possibly missed out on when I have one of the best friendships I could ever have? He looks at me like a sister, and we have been granted a loyal friendship. People always reference fate to romantic relationships, but I truly believe Matt and I were supposed to have this wonderfully wacky and unique lifelong friendship.
