It seems that the new social media fad is to talk about your obsession with your significant other, your limitations on their ability to live and what is "allowed" in your relationship. Maybe I've just been out of the dating game for so long that I don't know what's typical, but none of those behaviors seem healthy.
While it's one thing to be infatuated with the person you're seeing, it's another to be obsessed with them. That's toxic; it shows a lack of respect for personal boundaries, and sets you up for depressive abandonment in the event things don't work out--heads up, they usually don't.
I understand having your significant other as your best friend and wanting to do lots of things with them; that's not atypical. But driving by their house to see if they're home or always wanting to know their location--Find My Friends has to be a mutual acceptance people--demanding their passwords to all their social media, needing them to remain in contact at all times, and cutting down what activities they can partake in are unhealthy. If you can't trust your significant other, why are you dating them? You are wasting everybody's time and effort and missing out on people who could be in productive and healthy relationships with you.
It's not funny to set limitations on what your partner can and can't do. It's not healthy to have to ask permission of your partner before you go somewhere socially. This kind of control is borderline abusive and in no way a joke. Not only that but it shows your lack of self-esteem and trust in your relationship. For someone who wants to be in control all you're doing is showing just how much control you don't have.
The constant need for attention and validation isn't cute. It's annoying, and it gets old fast. I'm guilty of sending the "give me attention and tell me I'm pretty text" but it's usually to one of my friends and they know it's because I'm in a slump. I don't need constant validation from my friends that they're still my friends, and they still love me – but I do love hearing them say it – so why would I need or want that validation from someone with whom I'm in a relationship.
While I understand social media and constant contact make it easy for these demands to be made, and the ability to communicate in an incognito fashion makes "side pieces" easier to obtain and maintain, it doesn't mean you need to automatically assume your partner will do that. I'm all for the background check, and googling their name and mugshot in an image search; that is just taking preventative measures. But you do not need to chip your boyfriend/girlfriend. They are not your pet, they are a partner.
