The one thing I wish I knew about sisterhood before I joined a sorority is actually quite obvious, but it's arguably the biggest thing that most sororities go through workshop after workshop learning how to avoid talking about during recruitment. What is this insane secret that we don't want you to know? Well, it's that we, along with our sisterhoods, aren't perfect.
Now, this isn't to say that I don't absolutely love my sisters and that I'm not overwhelmingly honored to be a part of my sisterhood - this isn't that kind of article at all. It's moreso just to say that absolutely no sisterhood is perfect, nor should they be. Each sisterhood is unique, special, and perfect in their own right, but my point is that perfection shouldn't be measured by a lack of conflict.
Sisterhood is a learning curve and a growing process in its own right. There are going to be ups and downs during the process, and they are totally normal. There are going to be times where your sisters experience problems within your sisterhood and when sisters aren't going to get along. There will also be times, however, when you're experiencing issues that only your sisters can understand and help with. There will also be those times where you remember why you joined and where you can't imagine being anywhere else in the world than in that moment with your sisters.
In reality, the perfect sisterhood is a sisterhood where sisters feel a spectrum of emotions rather than unfaltering happiness; let's be serious, that's a huge red flag and it's just unnatural. The perfect sisterhood is the sisterhood where sisters admit their faults, learn from each other, grow together, and uphold the higher values of their organization. The perfect sisterhood is the one that you couldn't imagine not being a part of; it's the sisterhood that has challenged, pushed, and changed you. The perfect sisterhood is exactly what you make of it and exactly what you put into it.
In all, you don't join a sorority for the chapter meetings or even for the social events, you join a sorority for the sisterhood and sisterhood means different things to different people. Sisterhood, to me, is those 11 PM spontaneous Cook-Out runs where you eat more hushpuppies than you ever thought possible; it's those times where you and a few sisters vent for hours about all of life's little troubles. Sisterhood is those moments where I look at one of my sisters and revel in how proud I am of her recent accomplishment. To me, sisterhood is absolutely everything even if it isn't absolutely picture-perfect 100% of the time, and I wouldn't change a thing.
