I am 20 years old and still have not been in a single steady relationship with somebody and I don't think it's a terrible thing. In high school, I was too entirely focused on my studies and extracurriculars to even consider dating anybody. I don't regret it because I achieved many successes in my high school career that I probably wouldn't have done if I would have had a significant other in my life. Even though I am older now and there are times when I want a boyfriend because many people my age are pairing off, I am mostly content with being single.
I am perfectly willing for a good guy to date because I could compromise my values or rush into a relationship for the sake of having one, but it will ultimately lead to my unhappiness and the unhappiness of the other person in the relationship. I truly believe that you should date your best friend and before you date them you should get to know who they truly are as a person. Spend a month to three months getting to know them and what makes them tick and then let the relationship naturally flow. If the relationship feels more like work or is stressing you out from the beginning, then you should probably drop the relationship.
I know that I am not the girl that everybody wants to date. When you are dating someone in your young age you want somebody who is fun and adventurous and is easy-going. Even though I can be fun, I can also be extremely focused and stubborn on my future goals. I've never skipped a single college class just because and I've always put 110% into my job. Right now, I am just dipping my toes into the job pool, and I know this is the time to either leave a good impression or a bad impression.
However, I know that at some point in my life, I will meet somebody who will change my perspective on things and make me believe in true love and all that jazz. All the qualities that guys once disliked about me, my future husband will find perfect. My steadiness in always doing the right and looking out and caring for my friends and family will be a good thing when I have a family of my own.
So yes, I may not be the girl that everyone wants to date, but I know when the day comes that a guy is looking for someone to marry, I'll be the one people want. So even though sometimes I struggle being single and waiting for a good person to date, eventually it will happen and it'll all be worth it. All the doubts and stress will go away and all the guys you didn't date will make sense because life has a way of showing the pattern of things once the trial is over.
