I'm not searching for someone and here's why:

That's right people. No tinder swipes, random friend request, Twitter follows, jumping on the decent guy I see in an Instagram picture, and definitely no sliding into someone's DMs.

I'm a relationship kind of person. I don't like to jump from one person to another, or talk to six different people at once. I like to give my all to one person, so there's no point in trying to invest in a two week fling.

I'm not the person who can just jump back into the dating game after a break up. I don't like to numb the pain with a rebound either. To me it's not fair to yourself or the other person to jump into something you know you're not ready for. You put both of your feelings on the line in hopes of not feeling the pain. Sometimes rebounds turn into a great relationship but at this point that's not a chance I'm willing to take.

I most definitely won't jump into bed with the first person who hits me up either. I value my self worth too much just to be used for a one night stand. I also know I'm far too emotional to give myself to a person who won't be there in the morning.

I'm too serious for a society that is so casual about dating. I've always thought this and dealing with the dating game, now it has proven to be true. I'm black and white when it comes to relationships, we are together or we are not. The whole talking stage is like an excuse to get someone into bed, rather than getting to know them. It seems that people my age want to sleep with someone and then decide if they're worth trying for. Not me.

Of course there's times where the loneliness sets in and I want a distraction but I know better. I know that it'll feel good for a few days but then reality sets in and I realize that I'm wasting my time. I also know that searching for a quick fix just means I'm settling, when I know I deserve better.

I know what I want in a person, and I won't settle for less. I do not want someone who makes empty promises of forever, yet runs when the going gets tough. I want someone my Dad would be proud of, and someone who will make fun of me with my family. I want someone who knows how to pick me up when I'm down, but can also put me in my place when my attitude peaks out.

I'm okay alone. It took me a while to realize this but it's true. I learned not to base my happiness on someone else because it will only cause disappointment. Being happy by myself is one of the most beautiful things on earth, and now I treasure it. Taking time to be myself and not conform to someone else's wants is so reliving. I only wish I would've done it sooner. I'll be a better version of myself for who ever I love next because now I know who I really am.

Don't think I'm swearing off dating, because I can assure you that's not the case. If someone walks into my life I won't push them away. I'm just not making an effort to search for someone. I'll be polite. I might even go on a few dates or simply hangout with someone. However my days of searching are over, and now you know why.