Yes, we matched on Tinder.
No, that doesn’t mean I have to sleep with you.
Almost every girl has found themselves in this situation. They find themselves in unfamiliar circumstances and decide to download the app “Tinder”.
It happens to everyone.
Most people know what Tinder is, but if not, let me school you. It’s an app that finds people in your near location and enables you to chat with them if you are mutually interested.
People are on there for many different reasons. There are people who are on Tinder just for hookups. And that’s okay. There are also people on there trying to find “the one”. That’s okay, too. However, just because I matched with you does not mean I’m obligated to sleep with you.
Yes, even I found myself on the mainstream app. The app where people find the love of their life and lie to everyone about how they met. Coming from a primary source, Tinder is not all rainbows and butterflies.
I would match with guys and find myself being harassed whenever I kindly declined their offer of a one night stand. Eventually, kindly became unkindly. There are actually guys out there that get infuriated whenever you tell them that you’re not interested in hooking up with them.
“But we matched. Don’t get on Tinder if you don’t want to hook up.”
No. Don’t get on Tinder and harass those that won’t give in to your plea for sex, nudes, or anything else that you are so desperate for.
If someone isn’t looking for the same thing you are, please do not continue to bother them about it.
So many people find themselves in those awkward “I wish they would leave me alone” situations. It’s not fair for you to make someone feel uncomfortable just because they aren’t looking for the same thing as you. Stop getting angry when that girl (or guy for that matter) who doesn’t want to hook up with you.
Too many girls are familiar with a conversation that starts off decent and ends with the guy calling them an obscenity just because they denied their invitation of hooking up.
You are not entitled to anything in this world, and especially not someone else’s body.
This also applies outside of social media. Just because someone went on a date or hung out with you does not mean that they have to sleep with you. Just because someone talked about sleeping with you does not mean that they have to sleep with you. People can change their minds, and that should be respected as well.
My advice to anyone who is looking to hookup: make sure your intentions are clear. Hell, if you have to, put in your “about me” that you’re not looking for a relationship. I would so much rather have someone be upfront about what they want to begin with rather than making it awkward for them and me both.
If you will just be honest, then you will save a lot of time by being told “Yes, I’m interested,” or “No, I’m not interested.” You’re not only doing them and a favor, but you’re doing yourself a favor. Time is a valuable thing; don’t waste it anymore than we already do.
