Repeat After Me: Nobody Cares That You're Not A Feminist

Repeat After Me: Nobody Cares That You're Not A Feminist

Really, no one.


Feminism is one of those topics that people tend to deem "controversial" as if fighting for equality across the globe is truly something that should be considered a dispute. It's obviously controversial with men, who refuse to accept and acknowledge the amount of privilege that has allowed them to dominate the world; they want the credit for it, they just won't admit that it caused women a lot of pain in order for them to get there.

And though in theory, it shouldn't be, feminism is controversial with women, too. These are the same people that think privilege is a dirty word. Or that acknowledging any sort of inequality somehow makes you sensitive or weak, synonymous with a "liberal."

The unwillingness to educate oneself about intersectional feminism and the disdain for those who have is often boasted about as it's some kind of personality trait. You don't have to be an activist or a feminist by any means but hating on women who are true doesn't do a thing besides revealing your internalized misogyny. The worst part is that many of the critiques from women who claim feminism is useless are based on misconceptions of what modern-day feminism really is. You see a photo of a woman protesting with her breasts out and assume that that's all that feminists do. Radical versions and extremes are the majority of what goes viral/what more people see so it's not best to make assumptions based on that.

Another claim against feminism that's rampant is the idea that just because one woman feels she doesn't "need" it, then neither does anybody else. Not only is this entirely egocentric but it is also ridden with privilege. Just because you and I aren't living in fear of things like a drastic difference in your pay or even worse — honor killings or female genital mutilation — does not mean that other people aren't. We have the ability to use our privilege to raise awareness for these issues. You may not want to but it's completely backward to hate on people who do.

An additional criticism is the idea that:

1. there are only two genders and

2. men and women are biologically different so equality is unattainable.

First of all, scientifically, sex and gender are two different things. Sex is biological while gender is socially and culturally constructed. Gender is a spectrum. Secondly, yes, men and women are different (duh) but that does not warrant inequality that constantly sets women back. You don't have to be a feminist but at least know the facts.

So no, nobody really cares that you're not a feminist and it's definitely not something to shout from the rooftops about. Hating on your own misperceptions of feminism doesn't make you different or cool or unique.

It's not going to change anything but feminism will. Because guess what? We're still fighting for your equality over here.

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17 Signs You Grew Up Irish

Irish and proud!

With a name like Shannon Elizabeth Ryan many people right away sarcastically ask the question "you're not Irish are you?" I always laugh and jokingly say nope not at all. I'm extremely proud of my Irish heritage, but what does it mean to be Irish?

Here are 17 signs you grew up Irish:

1. You have a distinct Irish name: first or last

Shannon, Elizabeth, Michael, Patrick, Sean, James, Ryan, Riley, Mahony, Murphy. Extra points if your last name begins with O', Mac or Mc.

2. You have been called a "potato head" or towhead as a child

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"What a bunch or potato heads!" Meaning you were really Irish or really blonde or both.

3. You were raised Catholic

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Catholic school, mass every Sunday. Oh and you were most likely an alter server or in the choir and can say the mass forward and backwards.

4. You have a love for potatoes of any kind.

Also, you may have read this book about a potato as a child.

5. You've been told, "Oh, you're Irish, you can hold your drinks."


I mean it's in your blood, right?

6. Funeral, wedding, birthday you really can't tell the difference

Wedding? Get the whiskey. Oh, you said funeral?

... get the whiskey.

7. You know old Irish Songs and sing along with every note

"The Streets of New York," "Black Velvet Band," "Wild Rover," "Molly Malone," "Galway Girl," "Danny Boy," tell me ma all songs I remember being singing along with as a kid.

8. Your favorite holiday is St. Patrick's Day and you go all out

A day to show the world that there are only two types of people in the world: those who are Irish and those that wish they were.

9. You own a Celtic cross, Claddagh ring or any Irish knot jewelry and wear it often

You were most likely given that Celtic cross when you were born and got one for your First Holy Communion. The Claddagh was given by someone who loves you and Irish knots you can never go wrong with.

10. Two words: "soda" and "bread"

Some don't know that the cross made on the top of bread is to keep the devil away and protect the house.

11. You have a HUGE family and the parties and reunions that go along with it are just as big

My family is enormous and this is only half of it and I still don't know everyone.

12. There is no such thing as tanning

Unless you ware one of the blessed ones who do tan I'm extremely jealous. For the rest of us, we have two options pale or red there is no in-between.

13. You may not have the cleanest mouth or quietest voice

But you would never dare say a bad word in front of someone older than you. As for an indoor voice, it's non-existent.

14. You can successfully pull off an “Irish Exit" and then have to explain to your friends the next day what exactly that is when they ask where you went

Basically means you leave the party without anyone knowing.

15. At one point in your life, you've said, “Jesus, Mary, and Joseph" if something went wrong

I heard this a lot growing up and I catch myself saying it every now and again.

16. The only college football team you root for is Notre Dame

I mean is there any other, Let's Go Fighting Irish!

17. Lastly, you are extremely proud of your Irish heritage

We are Irish. We are taught to be strong, have faith in God and learn how to party and have fun. Erin Go Bragh!

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It May Be Women's History Month, But We Should Be Honoring Women Every Day

I mean, we're pretty badass.


March is the celebration of Women's History Month, where we celebrate and join in the commemorating of all that women have accomplished over the years and how far they've come to show that the past, present, and future is female. 2018 marked the 30th anniversary of law marking Women's History Month an annual celebration in March, and we are going to continue celebrating even after this month as we should celebrate women every day.

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March 8t marks International Women's Day where everyone worldwide celebrates the power of the female A school district in California wanted to honor women and their strong character by participating in Women's History Week. There were essay contests, presentations and even a parade in Santa Rosa, California. But people wanted Women's History Week to be an event we should be celebrating annually. In 1980, President Jimmy Carter declared the week of March 8th, 1980 as National Women's History Week. It quickly spread across the country. Schools were adding it into their curriculum, people were recognizing this week more than it grew into a monthlong event. 1995 marked the starting of each president establishing that March would be Women's History Month.

Each year, the National Women's History Alliance establishes a theme for their month. This year's theme is "Visionary Women: Champions of Peace & Nonviolence" where they will honor "women who have led efforts to end war, violence, and injustice and pioneered the use of nonviolence to change society." But, in my opinion, I believe that women's history could be honored every month of the year because our ancestors fought pretty damn hard to receive the rights that you and I were given at birth.

Throughout history, women have been fighting to be looked at as a stronger figure. Always put down by the men, forced to stay inside and do the 'household duties' while the men went to war and the men worked outside, but why not women?

In my opinion, there are some pretty badass women who have played tremendous roles in moving for women's rights. Susan B. Anthony was a key player in the suffrage movement, Harriet Tubman helped slaves escape through the Underground Railroad, I think women have proven that they are stronger than ever as they've battled for the right to vote, fighting to close the wage gap, and even receive more educational rights.

Marie Curie (1867-1934) changed the medical world by finding the science of radioactivity, which then launched effective cures for cancer. She was also the first woman to win a Nobel Prize, first female professor at the University of Paris, and the first person, yes first person (men and women) to win a second Nobel Peace Prize.

Rosa Parks (1913-2005) challenged the ongoing battle of racial segregation happening in the south when she refused to give up her seat on a bus when a white person was demanding her to move to the back of the bus. It went something along the lines of "No."

Diana, Princess of Wales (1961-1997) was taken from us way too soon due to a fatal car accident in 1997. But Diana was the first wife to the heir apparent to the British Throne, Charles, Prince of Wales. It was probably one of the most watched events on tv during that time with over 700 million people tuning in. Along with being a princess, Diana loved working internationally to help sick children, preaching the banning of landmines, and even raised awareness for people who were struck with cancer, HIV/AIDS and mental illness which is some things people really didn't talk about.

Amelia Earhart (1897-1937) was the first woman to fly solo across the Atlantic ocean and broke the women's altitude record when she rose up to 14,000 feet. In 1937, she was going to be the first person to fly from the Red Sea to India but was reported missing on the 2nd of July. Her disappearance to this day is still one of history's biggest unsolved mysteries.

The list goes on and on of all these amazing women who either risked their lives or simply spoke up for what they believed in and challenged the authority to prove that women were stronger than what people perceived them to be. I feel that we should celebrate the history, the bravery and be proud of the women who fought for us.

Power to the Females.

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