Just last week, two of my friends and I went and grabbed lunch at our local Harris Teeter.
Side note: Who knew Harris Teeter had a place where you can make your own sub-sandwiches?! If you didn't, I suggest you go try one sometime.
While we were sitting there eating our sandwiches, we engaged in our daily conversations ranging from how stressed we were, what we had to do, boys, etc. etc. While we were talking, we came upon the discussion of the quote that is everywhere on the internet, particularly those Tumblr pages that make your heart break as you invest more than enough time reading each depressing story and/or saying -- The quote: "Right person, wrong time."
For the longest time, I have believed this quote -- sometimes you feel like you're meant to be with a person but the timing and circumstances won't allow it. So, when my friend abruptly rebutted me saying that quote, I was taken back. She explained how it's not the "right person, wrong time," but it's the "wrong person, wrong time." And this is so true! I immediately reevaluated the quote I had believed for the longest time and I approached it at a different angle and viewed it in a completely different perspective.
Far too often we believe that situations don't work out because it was bad timing or financially, emotionally, mentally, and physically we were not able to succeed in this particular situation or work things out with that one person. But that's not the case. If our plans were meant to work out, God would have allowed them to work out and He would have equipped us as necessary in order to succeed. It's not the right person at the wrong time but it's the wrong person at the wrong time because, at this moment in our lives, we're not meant to be with that person -- we may never be with that person, no matter how bad we want to.
Life is all about perspective. You can choose to be one-minded in situations or you can view these situations from different angles and approach them as necessary. So you failed an exam? Instead of viewing it as a predicament and assuming the worst, approach it from a different viewpoint and tell yourself that you now know what you did wrong so you'll do better next time. So you were broken up with? Instead of viewing this as a time of loss, view it as a time of growth so that you can be prepared for your next relationship.
At this moment in your life, whatever you may be doing, wherever you may be or whomever you may be with, you are supposed to be here. An elaborate plan has been created for us and within that plan, other people and their plans have somehow become interconnected with ours, creating this web of life. There's no such thing as the right person, wrong time but there is such thing as the wrong person, wrong time. Approach the situations that come into your life with more than one perspective, accept that somethings don't work out, and trust that God will send the people who are meant to be in your lives at the right time -- the time when He knows you are ready to handle them.
