When we grow up, we watch television or listen to songs that glorifies love stories.

I have news for you; there is no such thing as a perfect love story.

Now reading that you are probably thinking that this article is about how love is overrated or just an article that complains about love. Well you're wrong.

This article is special to me because it is about explaining how self worth is so important in finding potential love.

I have always been the type who loves to be in a relationship. I love the stability, the connection and all the feelings in between. My problem wasn't that I loved being in a relationship, my problem was I was trying to create a perfect love story that doesn't exist.

Social media is a dangerous thing, people try to keep up with one another and try to show off their "perfect" relationship. I know this all too well because I used to do it. I was so caught up in flaunting my relationship that I didn't see that it wasn't working behind closed doors.

I spent three years with a boy that I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with. In the end it didn't work because we were too different and at different stages of our lives. I will never regret anything except allowing myself to lose who the true me was.

When we broke up I was devastated (which any normal human would be after a break up). We officially called it off in November and after that I started to realize how much I lost myself. I forgot how to love myself and how to take care of myself. I'm not blaming anyone but myself because I allowed this. I was so focused on the other person during our whole relationship. Is he okay? Does he have everything he needs? What can I do to make him happy? In all of these thoughts never once did I ask myself "Am I okay?"

I remember one thing that he said to me during our break up. "We didn't have a love story. You and I never did have a love story. You don't deserve a love story." I know very poetic especially in a time like that. I had that grilled in the back of my head for months and thought it was all my fault. Well now I realized, how can someone tell me what I deserve? They are not in my shoes nor were they ever in my shoes. I will not allow anyone to control my thoughts or actions.

Now you know the background of this article. So now what?

Take care of yourself! Figure out who you want to be, where you want to go and what will make you happy.

Don't let anyone ever tell you how long that process should take because it is dependent on you. Some people take weeks, while others take years. Plus you never know what is going to happen. The best things happen when you least except them!

I know this well; I wasn't excepting to fall for someone but I have done exactly that. It's amazing feeling to just be able to connect with someone on a deep level. I went out one night to have a good time, little did I know I was going to meet someone that was going to mean so much to me and make a huge impact in my life.

Instead of being on social media to post constantly about one another we keep our lives private which it should be. Of course one in a while is cute but not all the time.

The only approvals of my relationship I need is from my family. Their the sweetest family you'll meet but very vocal to say the least. Luckily they love him!

Find yourself, love yourself, and believe in yourself.

If you cannot do these things for yourself, don't except someone else to. Once I figured all those out I was able to truly see how I should be treated. I found someone who is constantly supporting me, doing everything they can to make me smile, and wants to see me succeed. I've never felt so loved before!

Sometimes you have to be broken to the point you didn't think existed to be built back up higher than ever before!