"Be happy with what you have while working for what you want." - Helen Keller
For so long, I have heard many people, specifically young women say, "I need a boyfriend," but do they really?... No. The correct phrase would be, "I want a boyfriend," but in our society, many young women think that having a boyfriend is an ultimate goal and that it will help define them. But it won't. Be independent, strive to be a better you. Don't get me wrong, it is 100% okay to want a boyfriend, if that's something you want, go for it! But don't ever say "I need a boyfriend," no man should ever define who you are or who you want to be.
I know I may seem opposed to having boyfriends, especially if you've kept up with my other blogs about myself being anti-relationships. But I'm not. I just haven't found someone who I've wanted to be with, and that's okay. I've had crushes, but have found that I've been taking some time to focus on myself and enjoy my youth. After all, once it's gone, there is no getting it back. No one should ever define you. You are your own person, you decide for yourself what your future holds and the potential you have.
If you couldn't already tell, I am a feminist, in hopes of making women stronger then ever! To the young girls reading this, don't let anyone stand in your way of success. I have had ex boyfriends (who won't be named because they literally don't even matter) try to bring me down, tear down my success, say that I wouldn't be who I am if it wasn't for them, and they are seriously mistaken. As mean as this may sound, I've had to stop hanging out with friends because they chose their boyfriends over their friends, or they felt the need to drag them along to plans that they were not invited to.
I chuckle at the fact that I have had several people tell me, "Oh you need a boyfriend," but in reality, I don't NEED anyone. Especially not a boyfriend. Ignorance really is bliss. It's the 21st century people, come on now. Ladies, wake up! You are your own bad ass. You are your own success. No one can make you as happy as you can. Enjoy your freedom, enjoy your youth, and most importantly love yourself!