It's Really Not That Hard To Be Nice, So Why Don't We Do it

It's Really Not That Hard To Just Be Nice, So Why Don't We Do It

Being nice is simple, free, and can be done daily by everyone, so why don't more people do it?

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What does it mean to be nice?

Why is being nice even important at all?

With so many events taking place every day in the world, I feel like some people forget to ask themselves these questions. In today's society, everyone is busy doing something, whether it be working, going to school, taking care of others or even just walking their dog, everyone is always doing something. Most people tend to live by their own agendas and deadlines, so it can be easy to forget some simple concepts, like being nice.

Today, most people are pretty self-centered and only think about their lives and what they have to do for themselves. But honestly, it's understandable. I think I can speak for everyone when I say sometimes I get too caught up in things happening in my life that I don't really consider others as much as I should. With all of this being said, being nice is still important and shouldn't be forgotten.

Let's go back to my two original questions, what does it mean to be nice and why is it important? Being nice can involve so many different scenarios, from the basic everyday interactions with people to donating a kidney. Being nice could mean saying hello to a stranger or giving someone a compliment, just smiling more at people, offering help to someone who looks like they need it, checking in on friends and family, volunteering at local food pantries, being an organ donor, saving a life, the list could go on and on.

With all of these options for being nice, why not use some of them in your day-to-day life? Also, why is being nice even important? The answer to that is simple, it makes you feel better and the person you are helping or complementing feel better too. I've never heard someone say, "man, I wish that guy wouldn't have told me he liked my shoes today." We all love to be complimented.

People like to be noticed sometimes and to feel included. Meaning, when you compliment someone, it really does have an impact on them and make their day a little better. As I previously mentioned, being nice also makes that person feel better too, by knowing they are making someone else's day better.

One of my favorite quotes by Gandi is, "the best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others." I think of this quote often when I volunteer or even in my everyday interactions with people. I believe theres a lot of truth to this quote because one really can learn more about themselves while helping others, interestingly enough.

I hope by reading this, it allows you to think back and reflect a little. I know and understand everyone is busy living their own lives, but it's important to still remember to practice some core values every day or to make it a point to try to be nice and considerate of others because everyone could use a little boost sometimes. Life is busy, unexpected, and hectic, but that's no excuse to be a jerk because everyone is in the same boat, so just be nice.

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Working With People Who Are Dying Teaches You So Much About How To Live

Spending time with hospice patients taught me about the art of dying.

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Death is a difficult subject. It is addressed differently across cultures, lifestyles, and religions, and it can be difficult to find the right words to say when in the company of someone who is dying. I have spent a lot of time working with hospice patients, and I bore witness to the varying degrees of memory loss and cognitive decline that accompany aging and disease. The patients I worked with had diverse stories and interests, and although we might have had some trouble understanding each other, we found ways to communicate that transcended any typical conversation.

I especially learned a lot from patients severely affected by dementia.

They spoke in riddles, but their emotions were clearly communicated through their facial expressions and general demeanor, which told a story all on their own. We would connect through smiles and short phrases, yes or no questions, but more often than not, their minds were in another place. Some patients would repeat the details of the same event, over and over, with varying levels of detail each time. Others would revert to a child-like state, wondering about their parents, about school, and about family and friends they hadn't seen in a long time.

I often wondered why their minds chose to wander to a certain event or time period and leave them stranded there before the end of their life. Was an emotionally salient event reinforcing itself in their memories?

Was their subconscious trying to reconnect with people from their past? All I could do was agree and follow their lead because the last thing I wanted to do was break their pleasant memory.

I felt honored to be able to spend time with them, but I couldn't shake the feeling that I was intruding on their final moments, moments that might be better spent with family and loved ones. I didn't know them in their life, so I wondered how they benefited from my presence in their death. However, after learning that several of the patients I visited didn't have anyone to come to see them, I began to cherish every moment spent, whether it was in laughter or in tears. Several of the patients never remembered me. Each week, I was a new person, and each week they had a different variation of the same story that they needed to tell me. In a way, it might have made it easier to start fresh every week rather than to grow attached to a person they would soon leave.

Usually, the stories were light-hearted.

They were reliving a memory or experiencing life again as if it were the first time, but as the end draws nearer, a drastic shift in mood and demeanor is evident. A patient who was once friendly and jolly can quickly become quiet, reflective, and despondent. I've seen patients break down and cry, not because of their current situation, but because they were mourning old ones. These times taught me a lot about how to be just what that person needs towards the end of their life. I didn't need to understand why they were upset or what they wanted to say.

The somber tone and tired eyes let me know that what they had to say was important and worth hearing. What mattered most is that someone who cared was there to hear it.

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4 Things I Wish High School Me Knew

Every day has a purpose.

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People don't give high school enough credit for having the ability to shape your life. It can build you or it can break you and often times there is no in between. As I enter into my senior year of college I have reflected a lot on my college career and how it really has been the best years of my life up to this point, but I know that without a doubt my life would have been so different in I would have known these things as a high schooler.

1. Your life is valuable

But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved. And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus, in order that in the coming ages he might show the incomparable riches of his grace, expressed in his kindness to us in Christ Jesus. - Ephesians 2:4-7

2. You aren't defined by your singleness. 

Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires. - Song of Solomon 2:7

4. You aren't going to fit in

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. - Romans 12:2

4. Your clothes aren't going to fit forever, don't spend all of your money on them 

Then he said to them, "Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; life does not consist in an abundance of possessions." - Luke 12:15

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