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Nice Guys Don't Always Finish Last, Sometimes They Don't Even Want To Be In The Race

"He's such a nice guy!" What exactly does that mean though?

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Nice Guys Don't Always Finish Last, Sometimes They Don't Even Want To Be In The Race

There are many different types of guys. There is the bad guy, the family guy, the recently-coming-off-a-six-year-relationship guy, the player, and so on. A lot of us have also encountered the "nice guy."

We tell our friends, "He's such a nice guy!" But what does that actually mean?

We've all heard the cliché "nice guys finish last." This phrase is usually said by a guy who constantly talks about how he's stuck in the friend zone, as though being your friend is a reason that you should hook up with him. Sometimes it's said by a guy who thinks you should be with him instead of your ex who you keep complaining about (is he right? maybe, but it doesn't matter).

Whatever the case, the self-proclaimed "nice guys" usually are not that nice, they just think they're magically different than every other guy you know-- even though they're pretty much the same.

This is not the type of nice guy I'm talking about.

I'm talking about the guy who is super nice to you, but who you know has no interest in an actual relationship with you. This is an awkward situation because he is exactly the guy you want to date, but you know he'll never want anything more than the occasional hookup and maybe coffee or lunch here and there.

So, like, you can't be mad at him because he's not being mean to you and is clear about what he's looking for, but there's still a part of you that thinks, 'Well what the f**k can I be mad about? Because this sucks.'

Some nice guys finish last because they're not actually nice guys, but this type of nice guys don't even want to be in the race.

Is this a bad thing? Well, that's up to you. You can use this to your advantage or you can let it wreck you. If it's going to wreck you, it's probably best to end things.

However, here's how this 'nice guy' can benefit you.

He's honest-- about what he is looking for, about how he feels about you, about whether he's feeling it tonight or not.

He's respectful-- he won't just ghost you one day, he never makes you feel pressured to do anything you don't feel like doing.

He's there-- when you need someone after bars, he's most likely down.

So yeah, occasionally nice guys finish last, but sometimes they don't even want to be in the race-- and that's OK.

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