Let me get straight to the point. I do not want children. This is something I have always known, even as a little girl I always said I never wanted to be a parent. Throughout my entire life, people have always tried to either persuade me otherwise, or I get the typical, “Oh, you will change your mind when you get older. Trust me.” Well, guess what folks? I am older and I still do not want children. I am confident of this decision. Some may say I am selfish, but please hear me out.
1. I am very career oriented.
I have a great deal of motivation to succeed in life and be successful. I consider myself to have the type of work ethic and ambition that is rare to come by these days. I know far too many people that have told me they didn’t follow their dreams because they had children. “Life happened, kids happened” are the typical responses. Now, don’t get it confused. I am absolutely not saying that you can’t have kids and still be successful. Because you can, I know plenty that are, but I don’t want any distractions. I want to completely focus on myself and my goals and get to where I need to be without having to worry about changing diapers.
2. I don’t want to ruin my body.
Others may think this is ridiculous, but I am incredibly passionate about fitness and nutrition. I have worked out for 12 years and I am proud of my body. Not saying that having a child isn’t worth it to some people. Some women are proud of their stretch marks because they had a child and it was worth it to them. I also know that not everyone gets stretch marks. But I have fitness goals and I don’t want to take the risk. Not to mention, I have lots of health issues of my own and a pregnancy could take a major toll on my own body.
3. I love to travel.
Traveling is a huge passion of mine. The first time I ever traveled outside of the U.S. and the first time I was ever on a plane I was 21 years old. I went to Europe and I was hooked; traveling, flying, new experiences, different cultures, all of it. I firmly believe in traveling as often as you can, as long as you can, and as far as you can. Every chance that I get to travel I always try to take advantage of that. Having to haul around a baby and the expenses that come along with a child will make that slightly more complicated. Traveling can also be expensive.
4. I don’t want to raise a child in this world.
When I was a kid, I would leave early in the morning on my bike and I wouldn’t come home until the street lights came on. My mom wouldn’t have a clue where I was in the neighborhood. I even hung out with a bunch of boys. Why? Because it was safe back then. With the way things are now, I wouldn’t dare let a child out of my sight. There is so much crime in the world. There are so many child molesters and pedophiles. You hear of so many rapes to young children. The world has turned into a cruel place and you have to be cautious and careful no matter what you do. It’s sad, but unfortunately, that’s just the way it is nowadays and I would hate to raise a child with the way things are. The world is also overpopulated. I can't drive home in the middle of the day without having to sit through a single red light 3 or 4 times.
5. I don’t want to worry about anyone else.
I love me and I love to spoil me. I love to treat myself. I love to shop. I love to buy myself things. I love the freedom of being able to do what I want when I want. If I had a child, it is no longer about me. For the rest of my life, I will always have to put another human being before myself with anything and everything that I do. I don’t want to make that type of change. I don’t ever want to have to live my life that way.
6. Kids just aren’t for me.
I don’t care if other people have kids. I don’t even mind to even date someone else that has kids already. I am not saying I don’t like kids or anything of that nature. It’s just I am happy with my freedom and I want to keep it that way. A child just simply would not fit into my busy lifestyle.
Some people have told me that I am very selfish because of these feelings. I disagree. I believe people are selfish who have children and aren’t able to put them first. I know lots of people that have kids and still put themselves first and it is not fair to the child. I consider that selfish. I do not think I am being selfish for loving myself more than a hypothetical child of which does not even exist. I consider myself to be responsible, not selfish.
