When someone walks out of your life or you decide to close the door on that chapter of your story, never regret your decision. There are people who are meant to stay in your life, and there are those who are meant to leave, and this isn't something you should feel badly about in the end.
1. The sixth time is NOT going to be different.
Let me start off by saying, YES people can change, and YES it does happen often, BUT, if it hasn’t happened the past six chances you’ve given someone, it never will. You can’t force someone to change their ways and you shouldn’t make it your life goal to make someone a better person. There are 7.125 BILLION people in the world, so the odds are in your favor that you will be able to find someone new who shares your same weirdness. Don’t beat yourself up and just realize that if you give them that second chance, they will hurt you again and that’s one thing I know for sure.
2. You deserve happiness.
And guess what so do they. Maybe your friendship together just wasn’t the right fit, and that’s not something you should beat yourself up over. By letting go of the toxic people in your life, you are already eliminating stress, even if you don’t feel it right away. The kinds of people that will be your forever friends are those who support your decisions and help you be your best self. Breaking this relationship could be the best thing to happen to the BOTH of you.
3. You will no longer have to be Dr. Phil twice a week.
Imagine 1:15 a.m. on a Wednesday, and being able to sleep. Great right? How many times have you stayed up helping them through the same problem they’ve had 100 times before. It seems normal at the time but once it’s over you’ll realize their drama was excessive and you shouldn’t have had to worry about it. This probably sounds harsh, and staying up to talk people through bad experiences is an amazing thing to do, but you all have been there with that one person who takes everything to the next level and has a quarter-life crisis twice a week. Save yourself, and the stress.
4. Your social life will thank you.
Not having to spend all of your time focusing on your toxic friend/boyfriend, means you will be able to spend time on things that actually make you happy. By cutting ties, you will be able to make stronger relationships to others in your friend groups (and maybe new people too) that you end up getting along with better. Don’t be afraid to reach out and create friends you never thought you could have, it’s kind of fun.
5. "Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together."
By eliminating a negative person in your life, you will probably be in a place you never would have been if you didn’t let them go. Think about that, your life will change course because of a decision to let someone go and you never know who you will meet. Maybe you’ll walk into a bar and see your favorite celeb and you two will get married all because you told your best friend to take her high maintenance self to the curb. Okay, it’s a stretch but you never know. Never underestimate your life after this toxic person because if you aren’t happy, it’s not the end. Happily ever after is a thing, you just have to make it happen for yourself.
And most importantly, NEVER be afraid to do what you think is best for yourself. You deserve to be happy and we all need to learn how to put our own happiness above everyone else's. Once you find your own happiness, you can help other people find theirs (if you so desire).
