I'm Never Going To Be Your Average Girl

I'm Never Going To Be Your Average Girl

You can hate me or underestimate me, but I'm different.

When I was young, I always wanted to be a cheerleader and to be popular. I always wanted to fit in with the cool crowd. Especially in high school, I never felt like I fit in. I always envied the life of the popular kids because it seemed like they had everything. They had tons of friends that surrounded them, money, nice cars and perfect grades. All I had was a few friends and alright grades. I wasn't a cheerleader or basketball player, instead, I was on the bowling team. I hated waking up for high school every morning because I had to deal with the feeling that I was never going to be like the popular girls. But those girls weren't happy girls. They revolved their entire lives around boys, popularity and who had more money. Even though I wanted to fit in, I never actually wanted to be like them because who wants to tear other girls down just to feel good about themselves? Not me. Since I've been out of high school, I have accepted the fact that I'm different from those type of girls entirely and that's perfectly fine.

I don't want to be average, I don't want to be just like every girl you meet. I've always been different from those girls, and I've accepted that that is not a bad thing. I've never wanted to be one of those girls who makes a person feel like they are inadequate to me. Instead, I've always striven to be someone who makes everyone feel like a someone. It's a lot easier than being rude to someone. Those girls who always made me feel like a no one are the no ones, because if they have to belittle me or anyone else to find confidence, they really are just insecure.

I don't want to be that girl you knew in high school who drank or partied all the time. I don't want to be that girl who is constantly on her SnapChat sending selfies to boys, desperately begging for attention. I don't want to be that girl who belittles someone because they have less money than me. I don't want to be that girl who is ashamed of where she comes from. I don't want to be that girl who lies. I don't want to be that girl that lives on her cell phone. I don't want to be that girl who Taylor Swift writes songs about.

Instead of all these average things, I want to be the girl your mother is fond of. I want to be the girl that enjoys antique shopping instead of shopping at the mall. I want to be the girl who finds beauty in the ordinary. I want to be the girl you think isn't just beautiful, but is intelligent. I want to be the girl who loves Jesus more than I love you. I want to be the girl that isn't trashy but is elegant. I want to not only be elegant in my fashion, but in my demeanor. I want to be the girl who has independence. I want to be one of a kind girl. I want to be the girl that makes it hard for you to forget. I want to be the girl who makes you a better person. I want to be the girl who encourages you. I want to be the girl who leads you closer to God. The girl I want to be is different.

In the words of the beautiful and confident Maren Morris, "You can hate me or underestimate me. Do what you do cause what you do don't face me. Just when you think I'm at the end, In a second I'ma catch my second wind!" I'm not your average girl and I never will be.

Cover Image Credit: Anna Brackins

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

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The Football World Loses One Of Its Finest Players

Bart Starr passed away and NFL players, coaches, and fans all mourn the loss of the Packer legend, but his life and career will live on in hearts of Packer nation forever.


Bart Starr passed away at the age of 85 in Birmingham, Alabama. The NFL lost a great player. The Green Bay Packers lost a hero. And, the world lost a true gentleman. Starr's legacy has surpassed his accomplishments on the gridiron. He inspired not only his peers but the generations that have come after him. He is — and always — will be remembered as a Hall of Famer, a champion, and a Packer.

Bart Starr was a Packers legend. Starr led Green Bay to six division titles and five world championships. As the quarterback of Vince Lombardi's offense, he kept the machine going and executed the plays like no other. His mastery of the position was a large part of the Packers success in the 1960s. Starr was also the perfect teammate for the perfect team. His leadership put him in command of the Packers. Starr's time in Green Bay will not be forgotten by former players, coaches, and the fans.

Bart Starr's resume is rivaled by few in NFL history. He played in 10 postseason games and won 9 of them. He led the Packers to victory in Super Bowls I and II and won the MVP award in both games. He was the MVP of the league in 1966 and was named to the NFL All-Decade Team of the 1960s. The Packers retired his number 15 and Starr has been inducted into the Packers and Pro Football Hall of Fame.

After his playing days, Starr would become the head coach of the Packers. He could not repeat the success he had on the field from the 1960s teams. His coaching years do not take away from his legacy as one of the all-time great Packers. Starr was inducted into the Pro Football Hall of Fame in 1977.

One of Starr's last visits to Lambeau field was on a cold November night in 2015. Starr and his wife attended a ceremony in which the Packers retired Brett Favre's jersey number. Starr was the perfect personification of what it meant to be a Packer. His most heroic moment came in the 1967 NFL Championship Game. The Ice Bowl came down to a third and goal in Lambeau Field's south endzone against the Dallas Cowboys. Starr came to the sidelines and bravely told Vince Lombardi that he can sneak it in for a game-winning touchdown. Lombardi then replied, "Run it, and let's get the hell out of here." Starr ran a quarterback sneak for the game-winner and the Packers were off to Super Bowl II. Without Starr, Green Bay would not have won a second straight Super Bowl. His leadership in big game moments will live with Packers fans for a lifetime.

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Starr leaves behind his wife Cherry, his son, and three granddaughters. Packers fans will have a tight grip on the memories Bart Starr and the 60s teams created. Starr left behind a template for being a Green Bay Packer. He also left a template for being a good man and a gentleman of the game of football. He was a competitor and a leader. Packer nation mourns for the loss of one of the finest human beings the game has seen.

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