I have always believed love is something that is freely given. Ideally, love is effortless and profound. It is not something that is meant to be chased in order for the person you are in love with to stay. You should never feel like you have to question if someone truly loves you.
Know your self-worth! Reflect on the devotion that you are capable of having towards another person. Everyone finds love at some point in their life that doesn't require chasing after, but it's your choice whether you ignite or extinguish it.
At some point in our lives, many of us have experienced a toxic relationship. The most painful and heartbreaking stories I have heard are from people's first real love. You normally experience this kind of relationship fairly young.
An overcoming, deep, and passionate love that you try to fight for or maybe even chase. This feeling of desperation can make you question your value and ability to be loved in return. Love is complicated at times, but we ultimately accept the type of love we think we deserve.
I often believe people fight and chase love simply because it's the reality of someone loving you so deeply, other than friends or family. We fear the relationship falling apart, and the self-doubt that can come with it. Relationships do not rest only on one person, and no matter what one person says or does, it alone can't make a relationship. This is the frustrating and difficult part, because we can't alter the other person's feelings.
What is important is the expectation of the relationship, and not settling for less than what you deserve. It should be treated as a partnership with both people feeling respected and validated. How often do people treat their friends with more care and kindness than a romantic relationship? It is hard to watch when a person demeans or ignores their partner as if it is acceptable. This is where self-respect and dignity come into play.
If someone doesn't understand themselves or is too quick to jump into a relationship, then it can lead to unnecessary hurt. The couples that seem to have the most happiness are those who are not completely concerned with themselves. Sometimes sacrifices must be made for the ones we love. That is what love is.
Of course, it is essential to put boundaries on what is okay and what is unacceptable as to how someone can talk to or treat other people. These limits come with maturity and communication, which are unfortunately not given to us at birth, but learned with challenges and experience.
Having a person who is consistent and considerate eliminates the need to chase, and opens up the truth of what love is. I will never chase love because I know it'll come to me and stay by its own willpower, not my own.
