Independence seems to be a huge part of our generation's identity.
We believe it is necessary for us to be able to do everything, deal with everything, and succeed in everything on our own. We have also developed a belief that we are the only ones going through a particular struggle, and, therefore, that we must face it alone.
This is one of the biggest lies I believe we have accepted as a society.
The reality of the matter is that we aren't alone, and we need to stop acting as if we are. Hearing that we aren't alone is one thing, but here are three examples that prove we aren't as alone as we sometimes feel or believe we need to be.
First of all, you are not the first, and you definitely won't be the last person to go through this particular struggle. Whether it is the death of a family member, a long day at work, or an illness that comes at an unexpected time, somebody somewhere can relate to you. This might not be very comforting seeing as you are still going through some sort of a problem, but hopefully you will see the fact you aren't alone in your problem and realize that if somebody else managed to make it through this, you can to!
We also need to acknowledge the fact that we have a support system. Your friends and family aren't just there for the amazingly fun times that you have together. If they are truly your friends, they are in it for the long haul, and that means they are willing to listen to your problems. Talking about an issue you are going through can be so therapeutic, and your support system is there for you. No problem is too small or too great for those around you.
It takes people a long time to realize that some people really do care. As a friend, people expect you to trust them with what you're going through. Oftentimes they are literally waiting for you to tell them what has been bothering you.
Be open and honest and you'll be surprised by their reactions. You don't have to be alone or deal with your problems by yourself. People are there for you, use that!
Lastly, whether you feel as though people will understand your problems or not, we can guarantee that somebody will. God knows your heart. God understands what you are going through like nobody else can, and He is always there for you.
"Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
Joshua 1:9
We have been blessed with direct communication with God through prayer. We can always look to Him and speak our mind. He already knows what we are feeling, but he will listen to your every word. Going to God in prayer is one of the easiest ways to acknowledge the fact that you don't have to deal with things on your own.
Whether you don't believe you have somebody to turn to, or you are too stubborn to give up your "independence," we all need to realize that we need people to talk to. We honestly can't do it alone. People can relate to you, people want to be there for you, and we have a God who is begging us to talk to Him and to lean on Him when we need help. What more could we ask for?
