Sometimes (actually pretty often) people's negative actions can backfire. After some of the things I've seen these past few years, I realize that some of the most silent people I know are some of the most disciplined because they're probably holding back a lot. I'm working on this personally, but I'm more determined to discipline myself because I've realized the following:

When you trash someone, I learn very little about them, but a lot about you.

You could be a great person with a dynamic personality but I can't see that because all I can think is "I'm not sure how seriously to take this person. All they have done is trash someone relentlessly." You could also be telling the accurate truth, but if my intuition picks on some immature signals, than your credibility is down the toilet and I don't care much what you say about the person you just ripped on.

Being the bigger person is very annoying and under appreciated. It's also worth your peace of mind.

It seems so obvious, but we still let our judgement get clouded when we're involved personally in a situation. When someone throws negative vibes your way, it seems justified to throw some right back, because you're a person with dignity too, right?

But when you remind yourself that you're communicating with a person who probably has something painful or pitiful behind their attitude, its hard not to take the option of easing up on your anger to help them with their pain. Put your dignity behind you, because you may be confusing it with your ego. Aggressors want to express themselves, so get them to, if you can. Try being nice. Ignore them at the very least, that way the problem is less likely to grow. Even if others can't tell, your dignity is still there, and it will eventually reflect in the way you carry yourself with a disciplined attitude.

Note: Sometimes ignoring aggressors makes them angrier, but this issue can only last so long before it dies down.

You might change your mind.

You might learn new information about something that made you upset, or your anger might dampen. If someone got hurt, or you put a bad image of yourself out in a moment of anger, was it worth it?

I do have instances where I feel that its worth expressing myself. I am a believer that some things need to be said and some things need to be heard (it justifies my sass). If it helps someone, if it clarifies your rights, then maybe its worth it. Just be aware of your situation and understand where your anger is coming from before misdirecting it.

You will waste your energy.

People do ridiculous things. You do too. It's just so easy to say "let it be" because sometimes you can't ignore it.

Let it be though. Your mind may be everywhere, but it'll be even harder to bring it back home (to peace) if you take the wrong turn.

One of the best pieces of advice that I have ever heard, that does work is this:

"Don't get angry. Don't get angry. Don't get angry."

Someone like me needs to remember this a lot. Maybe a lot of us can use this advice.