Why My Long Distance Friends Are Still My Best Friends

Why My Long Distance Friends Are Still My Best Friends

I am beyond proud of how far we've come in what feels like such a short time.

One of the things that I found myself thinking about the most, in regards to moving away to college, was that fact that I would no longer be in the same state as any of my closest friends, and this was going to be something very new to me. I lived in the same town my whole life and went to school with most of the same people all the way up through senior year. I could not have been more excited to start a new life in a new city at my dream school, but I knew that there was going to be a part of my life that could never be replaced. The times I spent with my closest friends, whether I'd known them since kindergarten or just for the four years of high school, were some of the best times of my life because I felt completely comfortable with these people. Just being in their presence never failed to brighten my day. I knew that the change was not going to be easy to deal with, but I was never scared that we'd lose touch.

Since we've moved away, we've made new friends and become involved in a whole other world that no college counseling meeting could have prepared us for. There is no doubt that we've changed as a result of the new people we're involved with and the new area that surrounds us. We've had good times and bad times, but never have I been scared of us leaving each other behind. We may not text every day, but when we do, it feels just as casual and comfortable as ever, and I am beyond thankful for that.

The support that I get from my best friends is invaluable, and I truly wish them the best as well. Every time we speak or get together when we're back home, it feels like picking up exactly where we left off. To me, that's what friendship is. It doesn't matter that some of us a are a long car or plane ride away from each other. I am beyond proud of us having come so far in what feels like such a short time. We are making new people out of ourselves, but that's okay because we've always been there when we needed each other, and that is not going to change anytime soon.

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10 Little Blessings You Get With A Guy Best Friend

There are times when a girl just needs to have a guy around.

Having a group of female friends is so nice and I feel extremely blessed to have mine. But there are times when a girl just needs to have a guy around. There are certain things to love about him and sometimes having the girls around just isn't the same. He is so patient and so amazing. There are so many great things that come with having a guy best friend.

1. A great listener

Guys are really great at hearing you out and taking what you say seriously. Girls do that, too, but guy best friends just seem to know when to be quiet.

2. A man's opinion

When it comes to getting advice on boys and boy problems, there is nothing better than getting that from a guy. They know how their brains work and they have your heart in mind when telling you what's up.

3. Honesty

With guys, there's no sugarcoating. They have every intention of being honest and to the point. When you ask for their opinion, know you're getting the truth, no matter how brutal.

4. A fake boyfriend

if the guy who slid into your DMs is acting weird, you can tell him you have a boyfriend even when you don't as long as you have a guy best friend. And he'll probably do a really great job.

5. Someone who laughs at your bad jokes

This specifically applies to any dirty or dry jokes. If you're a girl with a kind of boyish humor, you love having a guy best friend to crack jokes with.

6. A bigger appetite than yours

Guys are known to eat far more than girls. It's awesome because when you get food, you can eat a lot and not feel bad for it. Also, there is a much better chance of getting food, because he's always hungry.

7. A broader shoulder to cry on

When you're upset, having a guy's shoulder to cry on is great. You feel safe and guarded even as an emotional wreck.

8. An example of the perfect guy

A guy best friend is the supportive brother you may not have. They care about you and our safety. They're looking out for you and your heart.

10. Great hugs

This is by far the best benefit of having a guy best friend. They give the best hugs. They have bigger, stronger arms for maximum quality.

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You Can Give Your Friends Advice About Love, But It's Up To Them To Actually Listen And Follow It

A good friend will always keep your best interests at heart.

He's drunk and crying and I'm hurting and we're on Skype together and it's a Saturday night. My heart is broken because of him and even more, now, because his is broken, too. The other girl, the one he passed me up to date, just announced that they're not exclusive when they are. All he wants to do is be in love and all I want to do is show him that I can love him. He's not honest with himself about her and I'm not completely honest about my feelings for him about her. I decided to hide my anger and just be the "supportive" friend that I thought that I could be.

I want to tell him that he should have chosen me but it's not the time.

So I tell him that her not claiming him even though she says she feels strongly for him and he reciprocates the feeling, is a red flag. I tell him her flirting with other guys and her getting upset with other girls flirting with him is a red flag. In a soft sympathetic voice, I tell him that this girl is a walking red flag.

I can't be anything but honest.

I know it's something that he doesn't want to hear but it's something that needs to be said. I don't want my friend to get hurt even though we've just met but a friend is a friend. I have to be honest with him because I'd want him to be honest with me in situations like these. It's a sign that he has my back as much as I have his.

I tell him that this brutal honesty is out of love and respect for him. I'm grateful that he appreciates it. I'm secretly frustrated because I know he won't take it into careful consideration.

It's Sunday afternoon and we're on Skype and he's updating me on the talk they had with each other. I know he's settling with being mistreated. I tell him to not be with her and just move on with someone.

Secretly, I want him to move on to me. I know he won't. I'm still sympathetic. And I'm at my wits end with him. "She's not right for you," I say to him.

A few weeks later, I give him a talk that I like to call "Givers and Takers." She's hurt him, again and again, I'm picking up the pieces. I tell him that there are two kinds of people in relationships: givers and takers. I tell him he's a giver and she is a taker. I tell him that she's going to continue to take from him and only give when he calls her out for it but only for a little bit. I tell him that he shouldn't be with someone that will only take from him.

Kindly, like the good man he is, he defends her and her actions. We sit in silence for some time.

"Wicked people love wickedly, violent people love violently, weak people love weakly, stupid people love stupidly, but the love of a free man is never safe," I softly say to him. I don't get angry with him like I normally do. I'm content with the fact of not being listened to but my honesty about his relationship will never waiver. The core qualities of being a true friend never waiver.

In a perfect world, I wish he realized that he is in love with a wicked girl who loves wickedly. I wish he realized that he's loving stupidly and that his love isn't safe, too. He still doesn't listen but he tells me he appreciates my honesty. And, that's all that matters.

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