There is a massive difference between finding your soulmate in college and seeking your soulmate in college. I am gonna repeat that because I know someone is gonna get offended: if you have an amazing boyfriend/girlfriend/fiancé/husband/wife in college, that is literally so rad, but if you enrolled in a university with the intent to find a spouse, I'm #confused.
Eharmony is $59.95 a month.
Christian mingle is $29.99.
Farmers only is $21.95.
TINDER IS FREE.
College is like $7 million dollars a month.
After finding these extremely accurate statistics, I do not understand why people would go to college to find a spouse. College is hard!! I don't know about you but I don't really have time to lurk outside of the medical school to find a doctor-husband. I'm too busy breathing into a paper bag in the library trying not to lose my scholarship. Why would you sit through classes and take tests and eat campus food just to find a boy? I don't get it. There's so much left to learn! That's why I go to #college. I am so lucky to have the opportunity to go to college and I am not about to waste it to find a man. To me, that just seems like an unfair waste of a blessing that girls across the world would die to have.
In my opinion, the biggest issues are the ones who label girls as "Mrs. Degree" pursuers. A moment that has really stuck with me was when my best friend told a guy we met on a college tour that she was majoring in sociology and he goes "Oh so you're just here to find a husband." UM WHAT?? This is my beautiful best friend who parties harder than any celebrity I follow on social media yet still gets straight 4.0s and you're gonna say she's balancing life and working her butt off to find a stupid boy??? Nah fam. These labelers include people who say the phrases "well at least you're pretty" and "I met my husband when I was your age." Well thank you, I think I look like a sock puppet with lopsided googely eyes but thanks anyways and that's absolutely fascinating but when you were my age I bet you didn't have as many Twitter followers as me so there's that too. Being pretty is not a justification for anything else and there is not a generic timeline on love. Next!!
The negative stigma attached to being a wife and stay at home mom is also to blame. Try getting thrown up on at 3am and still being able to love that little snotty kid at 10am; that's hard stuff and doesn't need to be belittled as a life path. That mother is not just a "Mrs." who drinks martinis and uses her husband's AmEx.
Sparknotes version of this article: if you're sitting around waiting for your McDreamy, get off your butt and be your own McDreamy.
