My Mom Is Not My Best Friend, But She's The Best

My Mom Is Not My Best Friend, But She's The Best

A declaration of appreciation for my mom.


My mom is not my best friend. She has reassured me of that since I was little. "I'm not here to be your friend," was repeated whenever I tried to get away with something I shouldn't have or go somewhere I had no business going.

Do not confuse this with my mom being any less wonderful, any less appreciated, or any less loved than all the moms who try their hardest to be their daughters or sons friend.

In fact, I'd argue that it makes her the best, most appreciated, and most loved.

My mom has always been tough on my siblings and I but in the best way. She's held us to high standards that I am now just becoming overwhelming grateful for. She is comfortable with the word "no," and somehow always knows right from wrong, even when the lines are ambiguous and fuzzy. She is, quite simply, the strongest woman I know.

My mom and I laugh together, as best friends do. We go on Panera dates and get our nails done together, just as best friends do. And she encourages me to go after anything that will fuel my happiness, as a best friend does.

However, behind my siblings and my safety, my mom's main priority is assuring her children are good people with loving hearts, as she is. She has taught me to give unrequitedly, love passionately, and to always be the bigger person.

She has taught me that it is okay to fail, the emphasis is on the grace of your return. She has comforted me when necessary and thoughtfully showed me the error of my ways when I've made a mistake that I was not wise enough to notice at the time.

The greatest thing my mother has done for me is having the courage to be a mother.

She has played the bad cop, knowing that fights and anger would erupt. She fought through the tough times of raising three children, she said "no" when necessary, and she showed us the other side of things when we were unwilling to listen. All of this was carried out with strength and the understanding that she was forming three humans that would be genuinely good people.

My mom was (and is) wise enough to comprehend that she was creating a girl that would someday be the best version of herself, with an open mind and generous heart.

So, while my mother was not my best friend that idly adopted a strategy of appeasement and let me do whatever I pleased, she is the best mother in the fact that no one could love their children as much and no one could go through motherhood and the shaping of three humans as gracefully or as courageously.

The only thing left to say is "thank you," for preparing me to take on a beautiful world and for being strong enough to sometimes say "no."

P.S. My dad is just as wonderful and I am just as eternally thankful. Be patient, his time for praise is coming!

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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A Thank You Letter To My Dad Whose Love Is Unconditional

I love my mother to death but trust me on this one...I am just like my daddy.


Dear Daddio,

Without you, I would not have the common sense to do half the things that I know how to do. I would not know how to change a tire or even check the fluids in my car. But shoot, why do it myself when I can just ask you to do it for me? You may say no, but you come and do it anyways. Thank you for always being there.

I can count on you to help me with anything. Even on your off days, you are not really actually off. I ask you to help me all the time with the craziest projects. You do not even question it, you just help. I love that about you, dad. You always help everyone you can without a question. You are the type of man who would give your last dollar.

I also love how you come up with the craziest things to do. You get into these moods and you just do something crazy and go for it. When it is beautiful outside, we just sit and talk about anything that comes to mind. It is one of my favorite things to do with you. Thank you for always being there.

Momma always says how I am just like you. We always say the craziest things and joke all the time. Not to mention, we both cannot hear worth a crap. Whenever mom is trying to talk to us, she gets mad because we can not hear anything. Our TV's are always at max. volume. It is a real struggle, huh? We both love everything chocolate. You know I always share my dessert with you...even if I do not want to. I know you would do the same for me.

You are the calmest person I know. Even if the most stressful situations, you are so calm, cool, and collected. I wish I was more like you when it comes to that. I always tell you the things I want to do and no matter what, you say the same thing every time. You tell me how proud of me you are and you tell me to do whatever makes me happy. Thank you, daddy, for always being so supportive in all walks of my life.

You are by the far the most hardworking man that I know. Like I said before, even when you are off, you are not really off. You always stay working. Whether it is cleaning around the house or working in your garden, you never sit still. You say that you can not wait to retire, but I do not see you taking off. Thank you for showing me how to be a hard worker and how to provide for my future family. Without you, I would not have half the things I have in my life.

Thank you pops for this life that I live. I would not be where I am without your love and support. Thank you for all the help around the house and all my car troubles. I know that I can tell you anything without any judgment. I am sure whatever I say, you will support me.

I love you to the moon, daddio.

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