Relationships can be beautiful. They can also be ugly. They can happy. They can also be painful. If you're currently, or have ever been, in a serious relationship, you know that the time that you spend with your loved one is precious and irreplaceable. You look forward to every second spent with them, and when they're not with you miss them greatly.
My relationship is beautiful and happy. Of course, my relationship makes me happy. But it is also filled with painful and lonely moments.
My relationship is a long distance relationship.
My girlfriend lives on the opposite side of the East Coast and, as it is now, it might stay that way for almost a year aside from a couple three-day vacations we've planned out.
As I write about my relationship, I hope that anyone going through a long distance relationship like mine can relate and find comfort.
I actually only met her a few times in person before this whole long distance thing started which made it a little easier and a little harder. It takes a lot of commitment to get to know someone solely through text message and phone calls. Despite the distance between where I was and Boston (where she was at the time), we really kept at it, always sending a good morning text and calling, and always going to sleep with each other on the phone.
She decided to visit me for a few days, and at the time I didn't know this would be the last time I'd see her for months. Under circumstances, I won't disclose she had to move back to Florida on extremely short notice. I was heartbroken, especially after all the talk of our dates when I would come back to Boston.
Now that she's long distance, our relationship is hard, but it has also transformed.
Our relationship completely depends on trust.
We can't exactly be with them, so it's up to us to make sure one another knows where we are, what we're doing, who we're with, etc., and we just have to have to trust each other that we're telling the truth.
We save money on date nights.
As sad as that may sound, it's something I can see the bright side of. We have no choice but to just completely enjoy each other's company and not spend any money. This is both financially and emotionally beneficial.
We don't get caught up with physical attributes.
This is something I tell myself to make myself feel better. Since she doesn't have a computer it's hard for us to video chat, so we're always just hearing each other's voices and thoughts, and never really seeing each other's faces aside from Snapchats. Of course, I miss seeing her (and feeling her). Like I said, whatever helps me sleep at night.
Of course, being away from her sucks, and I miss her every day, but now I get excited whenever I hear from her, whether she calls or texts me, or even just likes my picture on Instagram. Believe it or not, this has kept or relationship exciting, and when the time comes that we can be together in person again, it will be like our relationship is refreshing and new.
I hope this made you understand a little about long distance relationships, and understand how truly lucky you are to be able to spend an unlimited amount of time with the one you love. Never take them for granted
