My Anxieties Annoy Me

My Anxieties Annoy Me

I get so annoyed with myself when my anxieties become too much to handle.

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Everyone worries about something, whether that be your next exam, a job interview, or about a conversation that you will be having later. Some people worry more than others, and that's okay. It is very normal to worry. However, I have found that sometimes my anxieties annoy the heck out of me.

I am anxious about driving on a highway. I get nervous when I have to return things to the store. I worry about potentially running into people that I do not want to see ever again. On one hand, I think that I should just overcome what is causing me to worry, but on the other hand, these anxieties cause me so much fear that it keeps me from being able to do things and being my best self.

When my anxiety is at its worst, I begin to feel bad for the people who have to deal with me. I begin to think that they think I am stupid for being this nervous. I get annoyed with myself that I have to give excuses because I am anxious. I start to wish that I could just turn off these feelings and move on with my life.

I lay in bed at night questioning myself and wondering why I can't just be "normal."

But even on my worst days, I know that I have people in my life who are there for me. I am reminded that what I am feeling is not stupid, that being nervous and worried about things is normal. They tell me that what worries me doesn't make me stupid or incapable.

I am thankful to have friends and family who help me when my anxiety becomes too much.

When I am not anxious, I know that I am capable and will achieve great things. Deep down, I know that I will be able to overcome these anxieties one day. Even though I am aware of this, that doesn't mean my anxieties don't currently annoy me.

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Five Websites To Calm Your Anxiety

These are more than just your average "chill-music" playlist.
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It's that time of year for students when midterms, benchmarks, and other important exams begin to rear their ugly heads. These times can cause a lot of stress and anxiety, and oftentimes people don't know how to process or control these emotions and end up spiraling into a dangerous pit of idleness. Students will know they're just freaking out over a test and won't want to talk to a friend or parent about it. They'll tell themselves it's not a real problem, they're just nervous! Others may want to talk, but can't seem to find the words, or even the courage to say those words. In my experience anxiety is always best cured on one's own. It may be different for your experience, but here are some websites I've found that may help deal with stress in a more private manner.

1) Player 2

Player 2 is a personalized, unique experience in which you can talk out your problems with someone else--except that someone else is also you. By inputting information about the specific cause of your anxiety, the website will help you process your feelings, validate your emotions and help you figure out what you can do to feel better. It's more pointed towards anger or anxiety because of another person, but it can be applicable to multiple situations. The website also features an "escape" button in case the experience isn't helping or makes you uncomfortable. An added bonus is the automatic removal of site analytics, so your input is 100% anonymous and is deleted at the end of your game.

2) Stress Analyst

This is similar to Player 2 in that it is a guided, personalized experience intended to talk you down from your extreme emotions. However, here you are offered a list of options, rather than having to type in your specific problem. Stress Analyst offers a more scientific outlook on anxiety--not necessarily in an educational way, but explains why you feel the way you do (most often the "fight or flight" response) rather than validating it. It also helps you figure out if you can do anything about your situation and, if so, what you can do. This website is a bit more mechanical and less atmospheric than Player 2, but is still quite effective.

3) Weave Silk

You've never been on the internet if you've never heard of Weave Silk. A beautiful, interactive online art maker, you can choose a color and throw your mouse any which way and end up creating something amazing. Thank the power of symmetry. It's not intended for stress, per se, but it has calming music and is a hypnotizing distraction that is sure to let your brain rest for at least a little while. Not to mention it's really fun. You can even download the pictures you create and share them over social media. A relaxing, simple way to create something beautiful.

4) Incredibox

I'll admit this is something I played with a lot in high school. You're given your own little acapella group of seven men and you can set them however you like to make some interesting music. There's even a puzzle portion in which, if you can find the right combos, can unlock some extra content. It's a good way to distract yourself for fifteen minutes while you're absorbed into endless combinations of beat, melody, and harmony.

5) Flower Reaction


This is an incredibly fun game focusing on chain reactions. Your goal is to bloom as many flowers as possible by blooming one and creating a reaction across your screen. It's got calming music, a beautiful aesthetic, and is just genuinely fun. I caught myself playing this for over half an hour, despite its simple mechanics. It's relatively easy, too, so you won't be feeling much pressure to accomplish your goal. If you need to relax for a bit or just blow some time, Flower Reaction is the perfect place to get you into zen mode.


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12 Simple Ways To Ease Your Anxiety

These are some super simple ways to handle your stress at home.

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Anxiety and stress are very common problems for many of us in today's society.

Over 70% of adults face some sort of anxiety or stress in their lives.

It can really be overwhelming and can seriously affect our mood for the rest of the day.

Pushing these feelings of anxiety and stress aside and letting them build up does nothing but cause more harm to our minds and bodies.

Sometimes, we just need a quick and easy way to help alleviate some of this stress to help us get through the day and to help us feel better.

Here are 12 ways to do just that:

1. Practice deep breathing

Mental stress and anxiety can cause your body to respond in physical ways. Since it affects your sympathetic nervous system, you might experience elevated heart rate, shortness of breath, or lightheadedness. Breathing deeply and slowly can help slow your heart and ease your body back into a calm state. When I panic or feel overwhelmed, I breathe in slowly through my nose, think of one thing that makes me happy, slowly breathe out through my mouth, and repeat until I can feel my mind and body begin to calm.

2. Light a candle or start up your essential oil diffuser

My personal favorite scent to soothe my anxiety is lavender. However, you can also try chamomile, rose, orange, jasmine, sandalwood, or whatever else might help you.

3. Exercise

This is a big one, but can also be a very difficult one. Whenever you're feeling extremely anxious or overwhelmed, it might be hard enough for you to get yourself out of bed, let alone do any serious exercising. My best advice is to be proactive and try to pay attention to when you first start feeling your anxiety creep up on you. Just go ahead and get up and go for a walk, run, or whatever form of exercise you prefer!

4. Read a book

For me, there's nothing like curling up with a good book to help calm my nerves. Whenever I am knowingly going into a situation that will make me anxious, such as traveling, I always make sure to bring a book to read whenever I start to feel overwhelmed. Reading helps me to temporarily escape my anxieties and can be a big help in giving myself some much needed time to calm down.

5. Do yoga and practice meditation

Yoga is such a helpful activity for those with anxiety and stress! It kind of is just a combination of many different anxiety-relieving techniques (exercise, deep breathing, and mindfulness). There are many different apps, books, classes, and websites you can use as a guide and help to do yoga. You can find what positions, locations, and situation are best for you. Doing yoga gives you a great opportunity to think about and reflect on your feelings and worries.

6. Spend time with loved ones (yes, even your furbabies)

Sometimes, all we need is a little love and reassurance in our lives to alleviate some of our anxieties. Spending time with your family, friends, and pets can help us to see and remember the good things we have in our lives. So many times, those of us with anxiety tend to seclude ourselves and that makes it easy to forget the good we have.

7. Drink more water

Caffeine is a stimulant and can cause feelings of anxiety. It can make you feel jittery and can be a cause for elevated heart rate. Drinking more water not only helps you physically (like hydrating your skin and body), but it can also do wonders for your mental health. When your body is unhealthy and unhappy, that can be a big factor in feelings of depression and anxiety.

8. Take a short nap

If you begin to feel overwhelmed or anxious, sometimes it can do some good to just take a short 30-minute nap. Just give yourself some time to rest your mind and body and face the issue with a new focus and fresh thoughts.

9. Journal

Even though writing down your feelings, bad or good, can be helpful, when you're feeling anxious or overwhelmed, try focusing on the positive! Write down a few things that made you happy today or a few things that you're grateful for. Don't let yourself be bogged down by the negative.

10. Clean

This might not work for everybody, but I know that sometimes when I'm feeling restless or anxious, cleaning and decluttering can help clear my mind. Basically, it's just good to find something to put your focus on when your anxious thoughts feel like too much. Try to pick a task and focus on that until you're finished. You'll likely find, in the end, that you feel much better than before you started.

11. Listen to happy and soothing music

Listening to music is a BIG help to some people with anxiety. However, you need to be mindful of what you're listening to. Don't put on the breakup playlist you made when you were 13. Find happy or soothing songs and make yourself a playlist of songs with themes of positivity.

12. Don't bottle up your feelings

This might just be the most important advice I can give you when it comes to handling your anxiety. The worst thing that you can do is to suppress your feelings and try to force yourself to forget about them. Hiding or bottling up your feelings might help temporarily, but that will just make you feel worse in the end. Talk to someone or try one of the other methods I mentioned to face your anxiety, but don't pretend like it doesn't exist.

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