Being best friends with your mother is not only a beautiful relationship, but it's also not always butterflies and rainbows.

When I was younger, I never thought my mother and I would even have a relationship. My parents split when I was 8 years old and I despised my mother for being the divorcee. I was so close to my dad that I resented my mom for wanting a divorce.

Although I was close with my dad, I had to live with my mom. It was devastating that my father no longer lived with us, I gave my mom a lot of trouble when my dad no longer lived with us. As upset, angry, and devastated it was, I can finally say how happy I am that it happened. If it wasn't for my parents divorce, I wouldn't have become best friends with my mom. Don't get me wrong, it took a while until I was able to forgive my mom. It took time to understand why they divorced. It was definitely a grieving process, but what I know now, it was for the best for them and for myself. As I got older, I learned how each parent was and was able to know which one to go to for each situation or problem. As close as I thought I was with my father, I became aware that I actually became closer with my mother in the process.

My mom and I really became best friends when I was her last baby at home, while my other sisters were off at college. I always told my mom everything and anything that happened to me at school and when I eventually went of to college as well. Whenever I would be away from home, I always wanted her to be there when I would do something cool. She was the person I trusted and confided in. I'm a private person, so gaining friends has always been hard for me. It's hard for me to open up to people, to let people in my life. So that's why I always went to my mom because she's always there for me and I know she won't tell anyone about my business.

Sometimes, however, it's hard to be best friends with her, because I want her to be my mom too, but when you're best friends with your mom, it's hard to know where the boundaries are. I do many things with my mom that I would do with actual friends. I go out to bars/clubs with her, I go to concerts, we go to the beach together, we go to parties together. We do things that I should be doing with my same age group. It's hard sometimes because it's not that I don't have friends or that I don't want to do these things with friends as well, but I have a great time with my mom and I wouldn't trade it for the world. However, sometimes I wish we weren't as best friends as we are because sometimes other people get upset when we are both around each other. My mom and I bounce off of each other and we are both a little ditzy together, that sometimes I guess for people it can be too much. My mom and I don't understand it, but for some people, like my sisters, for instance, can't be around us because we can be too much.

I think its because my mother and I have a really great bond with each other and understand each other that other people just cannot understand. Although being best friends with your mother can be a blessing and a curse at the same time. I wouldn't trade our relationship for anything. I always have an amazing, fun time with my mother and I honestly wouldn't want to do half the things I do with her with anyone else. She understands me better than I understand myself and vice versa. Although it may be hard sometimes to define our boundary of a mother and daughter relationship, I'm happy where our relationship is now and that is being best friends with my mother!