To The Girls Who Spend All Their Time With Their Boyfriends, There Is More To Life Than Him

To The Girls Who Spend All Their Time With Their Boyfriends, There Is More To Life Than Him

Spend time apart, don't get dependent, and check up on your friends.

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I know, I know. There have been so many articles already written opposing what I am about to say. I understand that saying a girl shouldn't spend time with her boyfriend is absurd and just plain unfathomable. Hear me out, though, because that is not entirely what I'm saying.

There are girls who spend all of their time with their boyfriends. All of it. Morning until night, every meal, and everything in between, and see nothing wrong with that for days on end.

Isn't there a point, though, where that becomes too much? Don't you need time to yourself, or at the very least time to interact with someone else on a non-romantic level?

I'm not saying girls shouldn't spend time with their significant others. More power to you, sister. He is probably your best friend, and who wouldn't want to spend time with their best friend? But consider not spending so much time with him.

Take time for yourself. Spend time with your friends or your family.

By spending so much time with your significant other, you are not allowing yourself to function independently anymore. You are so obsessed with and so attached to one person, and so dependent on them for happiness and contentment. That's not healthy, for you or for him.

Realize that you need breaks and that functioning independently outside of the relationship is completely normal.

I've witnessed friends get into relationships and soon they are with their boyfriend all the time, for every second, forgetting the people who were around before him in exchange for this heart-eyes, gushy love that may not last.

Don't do that.

Spend time apart, don't get dependent, and check up on your friends. (They matter, too!)

There is more to life than the boy who has you all starry-eyed and blushing. Be your own person. Being with the boy that you love oh-so much is just a perk.

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An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.
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Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.

Sincerely,

Your Son’s Girlfriend

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Both Guys And Girls Have It Hard Finding Love, Stop Complaining

Nothing is easy, so stop throwing your own pity party.

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Love is in the air, and so is complaining. Gosh, sometimes being around young adults is exhausting. Basically, all you do is complain about money, or how you are still single/bashing your s/o. When I'm around either my fellow single ladies (or men) the same sort of concept always comes up. "[Insert gender here] have it so easy". Um...sorry bro, that's not the case.

From a girl's point of view, yeah, we may have it easy because we can doll ourselves up with makeup, and flaunt our physical features. But that doesn't mean we have men running toward us left and right. Some guys are jerks and don't know how to treat women. Some guys just want girls for sex, or for their body in general. Do we want that? Yes and no, but when it comes to settling down, that's the tricky part.

From a guy's point of view (now I am clearly not a guy, but this is just an estimate of what I have gathered from then) they have no makeup which already puts girls at an advantage. Girls just wanting to "hit and run", or wanting to sleep around a bit/be free and not committed while you want something more, psycho ex-girlfriends, and her friends. The list could go on, and it gets more complicated as it goes.

As you can probably see by now, guys and girls don't have it easy. The struggles are different, but all are pretty valid in my opinion. Though this article is like a rant, I hope that you know to think twice about saying "who has it better" because in reality, (love related or not) no one has it easy, and the life that others display has a lot more behind it than meets the eye.

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