Picture this: You're hanging out with friends. You go to a party.
Enter cute boy who catches your eye. You make eye contact with him, trying to hide the fact that you're blushing now.
It's not love at first sight, but you can tell that he's interested in you too.
He walks over to you, starts talking to you, and both of you hit it off really well.
As the party dwindles down, he asks for your number, gives you a kiss, and whispers in your ear ever so kindly, "Wanna come back to my place?"
Sound familiar?
Every college-aged girl has probably related to this type of scenario, or something that closely resembles it. We know it to be true that there are many, many guys out there who have the sole intention of sleeping with us.
But still, we hold on to that small glimmer of hope that we will meet a guy that will be different.
A guy who will want to get to know us first. A guy who will ask us out on a date first.
All of these initial steps before claiming our body.
Boys, I have one thing to say: I am more than a body.
I am so much more than my looks. I am so much more than my physical attributes that you find appealing. I am so much more.
Ever since the dawn of time, woman have been seen as a body. Still a walking, breathing being, of course, but still initially recognized by men as a body.
A body to look at.
A body to stare at.
A body to have sex with.
In today's day and age, you would think that we've moved far past this stigma. Well, think again.
Women are still constantly being pegged as a body, before being recognized for their intellect. Even women in positions of power are faced with this daily.
They may be CEOs, bosses, or engineers, but still they are seen by their male counterparts as an object rather than an educated individual.
I, as a female college student, can also see how much the "hookup culture" has contributed to this stigma as well. Boy meets girl. Girl and boy talk. Boy asksgirl for her number. Girl is kissed by boy. Boy asks girl to come back to his place.
Isn't there something more? The phrase "Wanna come back to my place" should be changed into "Let's go out sometime".
Get to know that other person. Take them out. Communicate with them.
And most importantly, see them as more than a body.
