When You're The "Mom Friend"

When You're The "Mom Friend"

If I had a penny for everytime my friends have said, "Thanks Mom"!

If I had a penny for every time my friends have said, “Thanks Mom”, I’d be rich. Somewhere between the lines of high school and college I’ve morphed into the Mom of the group. This happens everywhere I go. It’s happened at work, in group me, and with my friends at school. I didn’t really know what to think of it at first. Did that mean I was too responsible? Was I not fun? Was I being annoying? I’ve grown to accept it though, and now I proudly own my “Mom life”. Here’s a few things about being the "Mom" of many college students:

1) You Carry A Bag That Would Make Mary Poppins Jealous

People always ask if you have things, because they know you keep literally everything in your backpack. Advil, granola bars, tissues, hand sanitizer, notebook paper. They name it, you’ve got it.

2)You are the provider of food.

Whether you’ve packed it, cooked it, or bought it, your friends will never go hungry. I’m the person that goes on their lunch break at work to buy food for their co-workers. If I find a friend that missed lunch, you can bet that I will be making sure they eat as soon as possible. No kids will go hungry on my watch!

3)You're the go to counselor of the group

.....and everybody knows it. You put out fires left and right, and offer enough life advice to write a best-selling novel. Always being emotionally available can be draining, but it’s always worth it when your friends come back and say, “Thank you so much. I don’t know what I’d do without you”.

4)You’re the group planner for all activities

.... because you’re the only person that has their act together. Heck, if it wasn’t for you, you guys would never do any fun, organized activities!

5)You speak “Mom language”.

Did you finish that paper? Do you need anything? How are you doing? Watch where you're going! You need to wear a jacket today! Don't touch that!

6)You’re always the driver

...and you wouldn’t have it any other way. Hey, college kids are some irresponsible drivers! No way are you trusting them with your life! Like any good Mom, you drive a big vehicle that seats seven, so that everyone will always have a ride.

7) You're the peacemaker

If you see a fight going down, you don't hesitate to step right in the middle of it, and say, "Let's take a deep breath and try using our words".

Being the Mom may be work at times, but one day you’ll look down at your giant cup of coffee, Mary Poppins tote bag, and texts from your twelve “kids”, and think, “I’m pretty darn blessed.”

Besides, there’s no question about who’s going to be the best Mom in the group. You're already doing it!

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Dear Mom, I Hope You Know

I hope you know that I am here for you--until the very end.

Dear Mom,

I hope you know that I appreciate you.

You are the hardest working woman I know, continuously putting your family before yourself. Thank you for doing all of the tedious jobs that no one wants to do like keeping the house in order, cooking the food, and doing the laundry. Thank you for constantly putting up with my siblings and I. Thank you for always supporting us in our interests and hobbies. Thank you for investing in our daily lives and listening to our minor problems. Thank you for always loving us unconditionally.

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I hope you know I'm sorry.

I know I can be a big pain in the butt sometimes, and for that I'm sorry. I'm sorry for yelling at you, arguing with you, not listening to you, and making dumb decisions at times, but thank you for loving me anyways. Thank you for helping me stand back up, teaching me right from wrong, and pushing me to be the very best version of me.

I hope you know your love inspires me.

You live your life with a love that is contagious. Whether its nurturing love, tough love, friendly love, or romantic love, you have it all and you show it daily. The love you and Dad share is something I hope to find one day and the love you have for your family is evident in the way you constantly put us first.

I hope you know that you are my biggest role model and hero.

Ever since I was a little girl, you have been the person I have looked to in my life. You are strong, independent, confident, loving, supportive, and nurturing-- everything I strive to be as a woman and as a future mother. You give the best advice, even when I don't always take it. Though, I should know better by now because mothers always know best. Without you in my life, I honestly don't know where I'd be.

I hope you know that you are my best friend.

Not only are you my biggest cheerleader supporting me in everything I do, you are the person I talk to about everything, whether it's good or bad. I'm honestly so thankful for the relationship we share because I've had countless screwups and you literally give the best advice. Seriously, thank you for being the person I can count on at all times, at any time of the day or even night to just talk with. I mean we really do have some of the best conversations, best laughs, best cries (when needed), and the most fun watching cheesy chick flicks together or going on crazy shopping adventures.

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I hope you know that I am here for you--until the very end.

I don't mean to make you cry or anything -- even though you probably already are, but I want you to know that when the time comes, I'm going to be there for you just like all of these years you've been here for me. I will be there to support you, talk with you, laugh with you, cry with you, and love you for all of my life.

Honestly, I can't really imagine my life without you -- but it doesn't matter because I wouldn't be here without you, so here's to you.

Thank you for being you.

Love you lots!

Your daughter.

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