I am sure that everyone will agree with me when I say that love is one of the worst feelings and the best feelings a person can feel. Loving someone shows you parts of yourself you may not have known even existed. Emotions come pouring out of you that you did not even know you had. They open your eyes to a whole new view on the world. You finally care about someone else more than yourself. All of this sounds awesome, right? The answer is yes and no.
Loving someone so much that you would sacrifice your own happiness for theirs is an amazing feeling. How could you not feel special knowing you have found someone who means that much to you? You bend over backward for them even if it includes some sacrifices on your end because that is what we believe we are supposed to do in relationships.
The truth is you do not have to do whatever makes your partner happy, especially if it is not being reciprocated. You need to be able to put your foot down on things you are not interested in doing without fear of your partner’s reaction in doing so. If you do not want to do something or do not agree with something your partner is saying, speak up. It may cause fights, but at least there will not be any secret animosity toward each other. You do not want to have pent up anger toward your partner because you feel as if you do not have a voice in your relationship.
No one wants to feel like they are underappreciated in their relationship, but you also do not want to dismiss your partner’s feelings. Luckily, there is a way to balance the two. Most people do not figure this out, though, unfortunately, until they have lost a love or two.
When in a relationship, everything should feel equal. You should never be made to feel inferior to your partner. They are called your partner for a reason. You are a team, and you need to act as such to successfully make a relationship work. You need compromise. Do not always let them pick the dinner spot, the date location or the activities. Switch off. Make sure you are not making the other person feel guilty if they do not want to do the same thing as you. You do not want to make them do anything they do not want to do.
In many cases, women more times than not do whatever their partner want because they fear losing them. You should not fear your partner leaving you over how you feel or what you do not want to do. You should not lose someone over standing up for yourself and sharing your opinion. This also means you have to understand when your partner does the same for you.
Relationships can be hard and confusing, but as long as you are willing to work with your partner, you should have a happy relationship. Open communication is key to keeping both partners happy, and if that can be maintained, you should have a healthy relationship. Your lover should be your best friend, so if you cannot talk with them about your feelings and concerns, then you may need to reconsider. Dating will never be easy, but it can be made easier with communication.
