The Millie/Jacob Breakup Could Be A Good Thing

Millie Bobby Brown and Jacob Sartorius Just Split, And I'm Not Mad About It

"Sometimes, you have to do what is best for you, even if it hurts."

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Word just broke on Instagram that "Stranger Things" actress Millie Bobby Brown and "Sweatshirt" singer Jacob Sartorius just broke up after 7 months of dating. In the wake of such news, there are two groups of people: those mourning the loss of their favorite celebrity couple, and those rejoicing that the two have moved on. I fall in the latter category: here's why.

I have been a huge fan of MBB since Episode 1 of "Stranger Things". Not only is she an award-winning actress at just age 14, but is also a great example for young teenage girls everywhere. She dresses with modesty and class, speaks bravely (never brashly) for the things she believes in, and is incredibly optimistic about life. She consistently demonstrates gratitude to the people that have helped her succeed and is honest with her fans. In summary, Millie is a very mature young woman.

While I don't necessarily have anything horribly negative to say about Jacob Sartorius, I'm not sure I could say that he has the same sense of maturity that Millie does.

The catalyst of his career was taking videos of himself lip-singing to music. He has been involved in numerous scandals regarding being inappropriate with female fans. His music is cheesy at best and involves a heavy amount of auto-tuning; a testament to what I see as a lack of authenticity.

When comparing Millie's and Jacob's personalities, careers and lifestyles, it doesn't seem like a great match, especially for a romantic relationship. According to Jacob, he and Millie will continue to be friends. I think that could work out fine, as long as Jacob's lack of maturity does not hold Millie back from continuing to be the example and outstanding person she is.

The MBB/Jacob Sartorious split can be an example for all of us: choose your relationships wisely. Your friendships, your romantic endeavors, any connection you make with another person. It all matters. Sometimes, you have to do what is best for you, even if it hurts.

Regardless of my opinions of either party, I am proud of Millie and Jacob for doing what was best for both of them. They both went about the breakup with a mutual respect for each other, and that alone is an example that everyone going through heartbreak can learn from.

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I'd Rather Be Single Than Settle – Here Is Why Being Picky Is Okay

They're on their best behavior when you're dating.
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Dating nowadays described in one word: annoying.

What's even more annoying? when people tell you that you're being too "picky" when it comes to dating. Yes, from an outside perspective sometimes that's exactly what it looks like; however, when looking at it from my perspective it all makes sense.

I've heard it all:

"He was cute, why didn't you like him?"

"You didn't even give him a chance!"

"You pay too much attention to the little things!"

What people don't understand is that it's OKAY to be picky when it comes to guys. For some reason, girls in college freak out and think they're supposed to have a boyfriend by now, be engaged by the time they graduate, etc. It's all a little ridiculous.

However, I refuse to put myself on a time table such as this due to the fact that these girls who feel this way are left with no choice but to overlook the things in guys that they shouldn't be overlooking, they're settling and this is something that I refuse to do.

So this leaves the big question: What am I waiting for?

Well, I'm waiting for a guy who...

1. Wants to know my friends.

Blessed doesn't even begin to describe how lucky I am to have the friends that I do.

I want a guy who can hang out with my friends. If a guy makes an effort to impress your friends then that says a lot about him and how he feels about you. This not only shows that he cares about you but he cares about the people in your life as well.

Someone should be happy to see you happy and your friends contribute to that happiness, therefore, they should be nothing more than supportive and caring towards you and your friendships.

2. Actually, cares to get to know me.

Although this is a very broad statement, this is the most important one. A guy should want to know all about you. He should want to know your favorite movie, favorite ice cream flavor, favorite Netflix series, etc. Often, (the guys I get stuck on dates with) love to talk about themselves: they would rather tell you about what workout they did yesterday, what their job is, and what they like to do rather than get to know you.

This is something easy to spot on the first date, so although they may be "cute," you should probably drop them if you leave your date and can recite everything about their life since the day they were born, yet they didn't catch what your last name was.

3. How they talk about other women.

It does not matter who they're talking about, if they call their ex-girlfriend crazy we all know she probably isn't and if she is it's probably their fault.

If they talk bad about their mom, let's be honest, if they're disrespecting their mother they're not going to respect you either. If they mention a girl's physical appearances when describing them. For example, "yeah, I think our waitress is that blonde chick with the big boobs"

Well if that doesn't hint they're a complete f* boy then I don't know what else to tell you. And most importantly calling other women "bitches" that's just disrespectful.

Needless to say, if his conversations are similar to ones you'd hear in a frat house, ditch him.

4. Phone etiquette.

If he can't put his phone down long enough to take you to dinner then he doesn't deserve for you to be sitting across from him.

If a guy is serious about you he's going to give you his undivided attention and he's going to do whatever it takes to impress you and checking Snapchat on a date is not impressive. Also, notice if his phone is facedown, then there's most likely a reason for it.

He doesn't trust who or what could pop up on there and he clearly doesn't want you seeing. Although I'm not particularly interested in what's popping up on their phones, putting them face down says more about the guy than you think it does.

To reiterate, it's okay to be picky ladies, you're young, there's no rush.

Remember these tips next time you're on a date or seeing someone, and keep in mind: they're on their best behavior when you're dating. Then ask yourself, what will they be like when they're comfortable? Years down the road? Is this what I really want? If you ask yourself these questions you might be down the same road I have stumbled upon, being too picky.. and that's better than settling.

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